Anyone have situational depression? Can’t stop beating myself up over a decision a year ago. Basically missed out on a massive amount of money. I know this seems trite and i never even cared thatt much about money before this year.

So many other good things happened to me this year - got married, got a puppy, moved etc, and yet the one thing i keep returning to is this decision as though i ruined my life. Ironically the only thing ruining my life is my outlook and yet i just can’t stop.

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I did the same thing - lost about 10-15k in the stock market in March 2020 and I think about it all the time. I wouldn’t say I get angry / depressed about it, but it’s something I’ll never stop thinking about - like I just can’t let it go. Part of the reason I can’t move on is that it was money from my grandpas inheritance…

I had put in an offer for a house on March 5 and my down payment was the inheritance… watched the stock market crash that first week. Got the money out before the lowest point but not before I lost 10-15k!

I’m type A and controlling - this isn’t the only thing I’ve done that I replay in my head all the time… probably need to go to therapy or something

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You made the best choice at the time with the information you had. You will be amazed at the new opportunities the future will bring.

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Hey, there's no value in beating yourself up over a lost opportunity. I think all of us on here have missed out on money before whether it's an investment or right career move. It happens to everyone. Just learn from it and move forward. Like you said, you have so much in your life to be thankful for.

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Find a new goal. You will get busy and forget about it.

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Usually it’s that the goal represented something much larger to you- maybe a personality trait that you wanted to embody or maybe you’re trying to work your way out of a financial issue and you started to imagine the yield would help you

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Yes. My therapist said I am experiencing situational depression. Have you tried seeking professional help? It may help with the ruminating thoughts.

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I don’t know how to move past this. It wasn’t even life changing money, although perhaps/probably will be one day. But the biggest problem is me and how it made me feel about myself. It’s like constant pain/torturing myself and i don’t know how to make it stop.

I’ve dealt with things like death of family members better than this, although in fairness we’re awfully isolated during quarantine.

Look up "trite." I think you mean "trivial"

Yea i was surprised with this too but not taking the troll bait. Hoping for the better side of fishbowl here. And mostly seeing it!

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