Has anyone ever been in a really strong relationship but couldn’t get past doubts? I feel like everything factual is telling me to marry him but I’m struggling with uncertainty after a year of dating and I’m frustrated with myself.

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If doubts are “what if….” Then it’s often anxiety over change/ overthinking /negative cognitive distortions.

If doubts are “I doubt this person will stop being a man baby” then they’re flags and should cause pause.

Therapy helps immensely sorting through haze for clarity on wtf to do.

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That’s a good perspective. I think the what ifs tend to kill me. Especially being only 26. I think that the actual long-term being together is green flags: long term goals, finances, kids, future.

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