Have any of you had period when your child was sick nearly every 2-3 weeks from daycare. How did you handle it at work? My guy is still picking up stomach bugs (has one now) and my wife can’t keep taking off work. I’m on a super intense implementation project (12-15 hour days) and I’ve had to continually tell my team that he’s sick and I’ll miss meetings. I think I need to give my wife more support with him when he’s sick, but I’m so stressed about tanking my promotion this summer, or worse.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

It's tough, but unfortunately, that's how it is. It took a while for it to sink in for me too and I've been through it with 2 boys (4&7). You just gotta get into the mindset where you know you won't be able to prioritize work for a coupla years.. it's not too bad... Enjoy your time with your kid, it goes by too fast! Once they hit 3-4 its a lot better. Before you know it they become teenagers and you have a whole new set of problems, or at least that's what I've been told!! 😄

like

This is where it's often good to call in the Calvary, a nanny service, parents to take the load off of you and your partner.

like

Yea luckily my wife’s parents live nearby and help occasionally.

Really nothing you can do about it unfortunately. My advice is to plug away the best you can and, as the Beatles say, "Let it be." You're not in control of your destiny until you get significant help (like a stay at home parent or full time nanny). Even then it's iffy. Also, don't have another kid until your work situation improves. :)

We had to deal with two kids with zero help for the last 4 yrs. I've given up on significant career advancement until they're older. The stress levels are out of control. Fairly certain I'm going to have a heart attack or stroke sometime between now and 60. I gotta learn to woo-sa my life or get into weed. Weed sounds really good right now.

like

Everyone deals with this. Don’t stress the promotion. Be with your fam.

like

Yup, this is just a part of life with a little one. Anyone at your company who has had kids should understand. Don't stress yourself out too much.

like

Be happy that you are already at the 2-3 weeks apart stage. We've been stuck in the every other week cycle for a but over a year. I can't wait for the immune system to get to work, but yea it is hard and those without kids just can't understand. Just be honest and push through as well you can. Good luck!

like

Oof. I assume you are in the US then because I’d tell my team to use their paid short term care leave and if that is not enough / they are completely spend: call in sick.

like

Yup this was me. It gets better much quicker than you think. Don’t stress that promotion, it’ll happen eventually. Part of being an active / present parent is shrinking the part of your brain that cares about work. Do what you need to do to not get fired or laid off and not a whole lot more.

Related Posts

I have a student who only comes to school two days a week and then only for 1 hour. He tells me I have to pass him so it doesn't matter. This is very frustrating. I knew this student hates school and often states he is stupid. I just do my best to encourage him. Build confidence. Any ideas to encourage him more? By the way, taking to his parent does nothing.

likehelpful

Hi All,
Does anyone knows about Northern Trust project with IBM?
Thanks

like

Can we show unequal rent split up between husband & wife for HRA?
Let's say we pay 20k in rent. I want to show that I pay 15k and wife can show 5k. Is this sort of break up possible without explicitly mentioning it in the rent agreement?

like

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

likehelpful

What is good altimetrik pune or citi pune?
In altimetrik they giving me Western Union project.. any idea about it

Do cheat meals actually help you lose weight, assuming you're eating at a decent deficit every other day and exercising regularly?

like

Hello,

I have cleared interview with Wipro a month ago and after 15 days I received a simple mail from HR saying you are selected.

Since that day, there is no communication from HR team of Wipro . I tired of sending multiple emails and when I tried to call he always declines my call.

Between director of respected technology is reaching me and he wants me to join ASAP and take over the project work.

What should I do now?

Thanks

Is it SAFE joining Wipro as technical lead (B3) with 37LPA? Knowing that package is pretty high as compared to collogues in same band. HR is not ready to give project manager(C1) position.

Appreciate your suggestions/input.

Would there be any scope of increment going forward?

YOE 8.7

Tech SF DevOps

Wipro Infosys HCL Technologies Tata Consultancy Cognizant

like

Hello Fishes,
I joined Cognizant in July, but have setup my Goperform goals around October due to late project onboarding.
Will I be eligible for default hike after the new rules of appraisal?

like

So many of my mini anxiety attacks are solved by just eating something. I need to stay on top of my grocery shopping

like

I have been laid off going on 3 months now and I’ve never felt so discouraged in my life. This job hunt for me has been frustrating and draining. It really has taken a toll on my mental health and maybe even confidence. I feel like I’m losing momentum. Any advice on staying positive throughout this journey? It’s so hard to stay upbeat and motivated at times.

like

Looking to connect with clinical specialists in medical device/ pharma. Anyone in this position?

like
funny

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.

like

From a financial standpoint in this market, which would be a better approach in Austin -

1. Buy a ~8-850k house that meets most of our ideal criteria (size, schools, interiors etc) to stay long term

2. Buy a ~5-550k house that’s not ideal with the plan of moving into an ideal home in 4-5 years when kid is ready for school.

How easy is it to get a mortgage for the second home?

Household income - 300k

Happy to add more details as needed

Thanks

Is there any bench policy in amdocs. My project will end in january. What will happen after that?

like

Hi, I’m currently working as a recruiter in the light industrial and I’m really sick of the non stop calls, interviews and just the nature of this profile. Earlier I was contemplating moving to another field in recruitment but now I’m considering switching to another profile in HR where I can do backend processes/ payroll/ hr systems, cz I want to leave the calls and interviews and sourcing.. please suggest profiles I could take a dig in and explore? Thanks in advance

like

I am finally going to see a therapist for my depression and suicidal thoughts. Alot of bad things happened to me the past 2 years and I just can't handle it anymore. Just wanted to get it off my chest.

likeupliftinghelpful

Does anyone here work at Ameriprise financial? If so, would you recommend it? What is the work life balance like? I have an interview for a Advisory trading specialist role. Thanks!

likehelpful

More Posts

Associate at an AmLaw 100 firm doing patent work. I applied to a part time masters program to try to pivot to a different technical field (still doing patent work, but in something that interests me more than what I’m doing now). Do I try to stick it out at the firm while getting the masters, ask for a reduced hours schedule, or get a part time, non-legal job so I can focus more on the program (one year).

like

How is productivity measured for in-house attorneys? Is there any analog of billable hours for in-house lawyers?

like

What's the compensation for Contract Senior Manager at PwC in Texas? Glass door has no information about this.

like

What does a PEPI senior associate or manager make at Alvarez & Marsal? Interested in base and total comp.

like

For the foodies out there, post pics of your creations during quarantine! :)

like

What is a good salary for a physicist with PhD and 5 years of post PhD work experience in Europe? Semiconductor industry, R&D roles, KLA, Applied materials.... Etc.

like

Do you pay your credit cards in full every month?

I ask because I’ve let my credit spending get a bit lax since moving and adopting a puppy recently, so I haven’t been paying them off in full every month like I used to (though still well above the minimum payment, and keeping utilization at 30% or under). It got me thinking about how many people adhere to this advice.

like

Diversification is for protecting the wealth but concentration is for creating. Agree or disagree?

like

In honor of the upcoming score release this week, what exam are you waiting on and how many do you have left?

like

Hey friends! I hope everybody has had a productive week and had an awesome weekend for those who enjoyed their holiday! This question is specifically for Amazon Web Services in sales.

So I am currently a potential candidate as an AAE. I was told that I would in the future have to prepare a mock deck and deal with objections.

Has anybody had to prepare them and what was the scenario?

Thanks everyone!

like

Need 11 likes ♥ to dm please help by liking this post

likehelpful

What are M7 MBB recruiting timelines ? Considering applying right now to MBB, but if I get rejected I’m going to do an MBA, will I be blacklisted from applying for summer internships if I get rejected this fall ?

like

What is the biggest "burden" about your jobs? The research of stocks, funds, bonds, etc. or putting together a portfolio for customers during the busy seasons?

like

What are some phrases you commonly use to sound more intelligent?

like

Accenture folks!
Can I submit the Time report in the next fortnight if I missed current fortnight (1st -15th sep).
Will there be any consequences?
I have recently joined Accenture (DOJ- 1st Sept) and I am yet to receive the WBSe details for time report submission.

Please help as I continuously receiving automated mails to submit the time report.

Thanks in advance!!

like

Any senior writers looking in NY? Send me your books.

like

How about this to kick things off? What typically are the biggest factors in choosing at directors... budget, reel, conference call, experience in category, worked with her before?

I’m a 4th year and I’ve never billed contemporaneously for even a one full week. I guess I’d just rather have one day of torture recording all my hours at the end of the month than that extra little torture daily. I’m wondering how common or rare this is in BigLaw. Thoughts?

likefunny

It’s looking bleak, but are any south florida firms hiring juniors for com lit positions?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal