Have you ever been told "I don't see you like that" when you refer to yourself as a POC/minority? How do you respond?

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"well you should, because I am"

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Lol.... their opinion doesnt matter

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I am not a brand, i am a human. I see what you are saying but dont let these ppl have power over your image or self definition.

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I’ve had people be like, “when I look at you, I don’t get Mexican.”

I say, “well this is what it is.“ And then we awkwardly change the convo topic.

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You don't look Puerto Rican.... like I'm supposed to be a plate of arroz con gandules and dancing salsa during my meetings.... uggghhhh

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