Haven’t had sex with my partner (we’ve been together for 9.5 years) for almost a year. He never initiates anymore and when I do initiate it, he usually says tried or some kind of excuse. And no, he’s not cheating because we are together almost 24/7 and we are truly each other’s best friends. But I am starting to feel like it’s a roommate/ just best friends situation without the romance. Any advice?

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Similar thing happening here. Been together 8 years and we’re <1yr into marriage. Ive had serious convos with no change.
However one idea that worked recently is that i challenged him to “initiate one time this week”. He picked the time that worked for him, it was a one time baby step that was manageable, and i think he liked having it on his mind.

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That’s rough. I think proximity can help, but sometimes it’s just hard to get in the mood. Horny goat weed? Lol

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Men are visual creatures. Have you asked him if he still finds you attractive? Or if he is still interested in you as a woman? I have seen situations where a person might love their spouse but they are not attracted to them physically and that’s why they just avoid having sex.

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What doctor did he go to when he got his hormones checked? I’ve been on TRT for 10 years now and when I first had my levels checked, my PCP said I was fine at 270 because I was “within range.” I went to a urologist and was put on TRT, but a cookie cutter protocols that screwed me up. I finally found a urologist who specializes in men’s health and was put on Testosterone, HCG, and an AI and I feel like I’m in my 20s. I would go get a second opinion.

What are hcg and ai?

If he’s being disrespected regularly, it could be one of the major reasons. In worse case scenarios he’s not physically attracted to you anymore, I mean he definitely loves you but desires other women for physical satisfaction, but he won’t cheat! It’s all in his head.

This is common now a days and you are not alone , all I can say "This too shall pass". Good luck

I am going through the same. It looks like sex is least important to my wife. It's been 4 months and she is least interested about it. Tried to convey her so many times, she listens but doesn't react. Not sure what is the way out of it.

Maybe he has an ED problem and doesn't want to or just embarrassed to tell you.

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