Hi folks,
An off topic question, I'm 28 years old female and currently visa processing is ongoing . My parents are pressuring to get married. Can someone someone suggest me how to handle this mental pressure and how to say no to marriage at this moment as I want to settle down in my career and they are unable to understand? Please help with your valuable inputs.

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It’s only a matter of time . Once you are out you are free and away from the patriarchal and societal pressures

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One way you can say is this will be short term like 3 months and then long term to test your knowledge and these won't be long term blah blah

Or you can say marrying now they may not complete the process and why to leave this chance.

Or you can say hold for one year until you go and start earning so that you can get good profiles.

If you can, say workload will be high so no time there at all why get married during a stressful time and not enjoy married life..

Simply put explain from their perspective.. Also best ways is to sticking firm.

Please use your judgment, am a male, married with no experience of your life.

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Tell that I have boy Friend well settled once he come from onsite you can do marriage after my onsite

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Tell them you like only girls. They wil stop asking you to get married. 😅

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I have been in your shoes. Being a male I was not pressurized by parents per se but yes it was preferred. If I can tell you, please convince your parents that your marriage has to be your choice. First you need to find establish a good/respectable/loveable/joyful relationship and then get married. I would advice you to think of your goals and then make a wise decision. Learn to love yourself, take care of you, prioritize your well being financially, emotionally and physically. Experience the world. If you are an introvert you may need some help/tools to find good friends. But never give into social pressures. This advice is for long term.

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