Anybody get divorced as a young-ish associate with little kids? I think I'm on that path and really struggling

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

My hotel wouldn’t give me a plate to heat up my dinner, so I am sitting on my bed eating microwaved chicken out of a paper coffee cup with my bare hands... we lead sad lives.

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

My bf & I will be moving in together for the 1st time after dating for 5 years. He hasn’t been any help through the whole searching, budgeting process & tbh I feel alone. I’m exhausted, stressed & feel like I’m drowning. I’ve voiced my concerns over being the only one involved but his excuse is that he’s stressed. When I call him about a new listing etc he seems annoyed & disinterested. I will also be paying for more since I make more but due to his salary most apts in said budget (cont)

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

How often and for how long do you see your kids?

I live in CT, in the Greater Hartford area (mentioning that to express that I’m not in an urban setting). Does anyone have suggestions for how to find LGBTQ friends to connect with?

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

What does your spouse think of your job? Do they understand what you do?

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Got offered a great position across the country. My girlfriend just got accepted into med school so she is pretty much tied down here. Job or relationship?

I hope my father dies before my mom. Otherwise he’d consider it my duty to drop my life & move home to cook & clean for him, like my mother does. My mom works full time but is expected to take care of all things in the house, as well as do the accounting for my father’s business. He’s helpless without her, & is a sexist asshole. (IE my mom sprained her wrist and has carpel tunnel but she’s still expected to wash his dishes and he refuses to just buy a dishwasher). Please God, let him die first.

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

My mom turns 60 at the end of December. What would be a unique experience to get her (not stuff)? We want to spend around $1,000.

Would anyone consider their senior colleagues to be their genuine friends?

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

Anyone in the suburbs find it harder to make friends compared to the city? I don’t want to move back but I don’t know what else to do..

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

Anyone up for sharing your wisdom on preparing for the LSAT with ADHD?

How should a structural engineer with 2 and a half years of experience be earning?

I really like the show Yellowstone even though it often seems to hate coastal liberals like myself 😂

In TCS,After completing onboarding process and getting ur employee Id ,what's the process to get tagged into any project.Can you please share your experience?Can we reject any project if we don't find it not aligned to our expected work ?

Has anyone in here heard anything about Alter Domus?

So for any of you panicky paper-hands who need to get talked down from selling.

This is what playing dirty looks like - welcome to the real Wall Street. They want to send a message to scare off enough people by mimicking a crash through intentional sales that trigger freezes. This is the endgame, because they know that if retailers don't blink they have to take the bath of all baths tomorrow.

Log out, get some fresh air, come back later. Lots of good DD on wsb and discord. HOLD is FUN!

Need a referal for automation testing openings

Anyone ever work with Advantage? Agency recently onboarded the tool and hoping to see how other agencies have worked with this as we’re running into some issues.

Thoughts on buying into Wells Fargo now, at their 52 week low basically.. Bank too big to fail of course and their imposed caps on grown expire in a year or 2 I believe with regards to how much $$$ they can lend out or take in...

Curious to know what other avenues people have taken in our industry to make more money. Currently getting OT which is nice since most places don’t offer that benefit but still doesn’t feel like it’s worth the long nights when the paycheck comes in.

Hi everyone!

Wanted to know if Amex uses a lot of proprietary softwares/ processes which have no value outside of Amex?

What is the market like for entry level data scientists/ data analyst. I have a graduate certificate in data science and have spent the last 27 years as a mainframe dev so I have great SQL skills.

Here is my go-to interview question, "What is the difference between data science and data analytics?"

What questions does everyone else include when interviewing or is the best question you've been asked in an interview?

Experienced tax professionals - If you have any interest in switching to Deloitte, the deadline for the enhanced bonus is ending soon. Happy to kick back some of the bonus for any successful hires. Golf season is underway and a nice Scotty Cameron & Vokey wedges are a real joy. Hit me up with a DM if it might be a good fit for you.

Just moved to sunny San Diego with my fiancée and don’t have any friends in the city! Anyone open to grabbing a drink in the coming weeks? Currently in North Park

What is an ideal value of X for salary --> Salary = YOE*X. I feel least should be 3 and then sky is the limit

Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

Last night my 9yo said, “wow mom, Idina Menzel is 48 but she looks way younger than you!” (I am 38.) Then I put makeup on this morning and she said, “well, you look nice but you still look worn out...

Is anyone else worried about screen time or strict about it? I'm a bit torn about it and curious of everyone else's thoughts.

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

My marriage is struggling and we have to pack up the kids and fake it till we make it with my in laws for most of their Christmas break. I don't want a divorce but things are not good, and it's hard to pretend they are even in front of the kids. Looking for advice I guess, or just a kind word. Really don't want the in-laws finding out and trying to put their two cents in, and neither does she.

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

What's the hardest part of being a working parent in law? My wife and I are considering trying to get pregnant.

Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

Where would you begin w/ setting up your own solo practice? I am a military veteran and in need of some serious help (w/ starting a business that is). It is a long story, of which I might reveal more depending on the responses in the thread. Thanks in advance for entertaining such a broad question!

We're about to have our first child and my wife and I are both as prepared as we can possibly be and panicking about anything we may have forgotten. What do you wish you knew before becoming a working parent in law?

Fourth-year associate. I will soon be commuting to Midtown Manhattan to a firm that pays market. From a financial perspective, am I completely nuts to be driving in and parking? Between tolls and parking, it’s going to be close to $10K a year as opposed to the bus/train being between $2500-$3000 a year. Thing is, bus/rail is pretty reliable in the morning (in terms of availability of options), but if I’m working late service gets dodgy and I like the freedom of having my own vehicle (cont.)

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.