Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

28,F divorced no child and no life , my marriage is nothing but a whole cheat drama, now parents are asking to marry anyone who can 'accept ' me but I never did anything wrong other than being innocent and naive and good to bad people, really wanted to live my life, somebody hold my hand when in distress and i ended up somebody who just need my money and body nothing else, just feel like committing suicide, never been a loser at any point of life , Life is bloody damn unfair

Has anyone here felt really lonely during the pandemic and felt even less connected than ever? What have you done to help you through the loneliness?

Anyone who said no to a prospect because of personal reasons? Going through a rough patch and would really appreciate some advise on how to do it without burning (that many) bridges.

Seen a few posts on people not having/hating on parents with kids. What is your rationale? I for one am excited to have 3 kids running around in the future! Anyone else?

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Any idea about when the promotion letter will released?

When I spoke with HR she said that their was some confusion and with name and they have send wrong offer letter but except my CTC and joining date everything was same my email id, my home address everything. And now I have been asked to wait, HR says they will raise again. And its been 3 days now I can not accept the previous offer also and I cant even resign from my current company. What should I do?

Colleagues, if any of you are interested in helping severely disabled combat veterans get homes adapted for their disabilities, let me know. My wife recently started working for former NFL linebacker Jared Allen and his foundation. We're trying to figure out how to leverage the power of the big consulting firms to help our brothers and sisters in need.

Are salaries negotiable at performance review and/or promotion?

Currently 601 in CCB with 19LPA TC, expecting promotion this year. What amount of total compensation I can expect for 602 level?

what % raise do i ask for...

Does BNP APAC does background verification before sending offer letter or after sending the offer letter?

I have not been asked about the educational certificates yet.

They have only asked the PAN, PASSPORT and Current employer salalry slips and promotion letter.

P.s - I have recieved the offer letter now.

Will they be still doing any background verification or this is done ?

How long does your firm wait to tell you your compensation after a promotion?

Promotions went out Jan 3 and compensation will be revealed late Feb. Is this typical?

What is the difference between Principal Design Strategist & Design Strategist?

My current title is the latter and I’m interviewing for a Principal role. The title suggests it’s more senior and would appear to be a promotion on my resume but the jd sounds similar to what I’m already doing. I’m currently and IC, Principal is also IC. The only nuance I got from the recruiter is that there is no actual designing in this role.

Is this a case of title inflation?

For anyone who receives a quarterly bonus or raise in some form, does your employer start to schedule you for less hours when your raise kicks in, or pull you from a future schedule entirely once you receive a bonus; only to put you back on once the hours you would have worked and earned the amount given are passed? Ie; a part time employee getting $200.00 in a quarterly bonus and then not being scheduled a whole week during a bi-weekly pay period where they would have earned more on the clock…?

Happy to have just received my promotion to senior manager after a very challenging year, backed by an even more challenging year prior.
I've got my own beliefs what a senior manager does, or should do. I'm keen to hear transition challenges others have gone through when becoming a senior manager.

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

Making 55k now. What should I be looking to earn in my promotion this cycle?

Hey guys… I’m a case worker in child safety and I’m someone who loves being outdoors/dies at a desk all day. I’m hoping to organise that at least once a week I can go to a cafe and catch up on all my case notes that need to go into the system.
So far the only reason I’ve been told no is that “if you do then everyone will want to and then no one will be in the office” … how can I convince them that I work better out of the office and get this freedom & mental break for myself?

It's me, you conscience

Feel free to ask any personal finance related questions here, from equity investment to CC offers. There’s nothing called silly questions, we have some excellent peers in the group to answer it.

Dear Sir/ Mam , now i am doing SAP Fico traing , i have completed B.com in 2012.
I have 6 year experience as a admin
Is it currently available job in market,
Any refferal

From a financial standpoint in this market, which would be a better approach in Austin -

1. Buy a ~8-850k house that meets most of our ideal criteria (size, schools, interiors etc) to stay long term

2. Buy a ~5-550k house that’s not ideal with the plan of moving into an ideal home in 4-5 years when kid is ready for school.

How easy is it to get a mortgage for the second home?

Household income - 300k

Happy to add more details as needed

Thanks

Can we buy out notice period in Infosys

About to start my first PM job! Any tips to be prepared and ramp up quickly? Books to read, courses to take, etc.. any tips are appreciated! Currently in ops consulting. No tech background.

Not sure why the execs keep their jobs and layoff production. Do we need all top-level operation staff when there isn’t much left to operate? I have ahead time seeing C-suite doin any production work

What are the perks and benefits of working at DBS, Hyderabad? DBS DBS Bank

Fishes, Help me to choose a workplace for me. Nagarro - 8lpa (7.25 fixed )
Quantiphi - 10.5lpa ( 9.5 fixed )
Awaiting offer from Deloitte. ( How much can I ask ? )
Yoe : 3
Skills : Automation Testing.
Please comment on Job Security, Growth,wlb, benefits and other things .
Tata Consultancy
Deloitte
Nagarro
Quantiphi

Any Jr. Project Manager openings?

Best team names?

How did your interview go with JP guys?. Easy? Medium? Or difficult?.. please comment

Hi Fishes,
Please help me about BBI (Black buck Insight).
Is this a good company to join.

Kindly suggest

Question about what to do next. I’ve maxed out everything—401k, HSA, IRA, backdoor Roth 401k. My bills are all paid. I’ll probably make about 16,500 more this year to do stuff with (ie money that isn’t going to taxes or insurance or anything). What should I do with it? Crypto? Set it on fire? Get a hair transplant?

Hi Guys, Is somebody can tell me how GCP Engineer interview will happen in Virtusa ? what type of questions I can expect.

Thanks in Advance :)

Looking for a job for one of my friend for Visual designer/Digital illustrator role. Kindly let me know in case anyone is hiring for the same !!
Work exp : 5 years
Current location : Bangalore

If you aren’t straight, was there a public figure that made you realize this? My first memorable girl crush was Nigella Lawson, a British celebrity chef nearly twice my age.

Anyone else use voice text and always end up having to fix what you could have typed in the first place?

I’ve been tobacco free for two years, today.

I’ve been high every day for two years, today.

hi is anyone awake i have like a crisis and i have no idea what’s going on and would like someone to talk to

Seen a few posts on people not having/hating on parents with kids. What is your rationale? I for one am excited to have 3 kids running around in the future! Anyone else?

My boss won’t stop sexually harassing me. Verbally, email, texts - 400+. He even set up his office with a display of sex toys and edibles condiments to show me that he planned to give me oral sex. All started 3 weeks into the job. I moved my family cross country for this job and just bought a house. He promises me none of his requests or my responses will affect my job and is just begging now to be friends with me. Tell me what would you do if you were me.

Anyone knows how to open a non-profit company?

Anyone actually use the Networking feature here on fishbowl? Like yeah I see some of you with it on but do you actually use it besides thirsty dms?

I low key miss fridays in the office because I don’t know how to make new friends as a 26 year old

so sad around the holidays 😕

Staying downtown Columbus Hilton for my wife’s job conference and we have to use valet parking since I need to use my car to go to work every day. $40 a day, how much do I tip and is it when I drop my car off and when they bring it to me in the morning?

I’ve learned recently about some traumatic events that family members of mine have gone through but I had no idea had occurred. Besides my parents divorcing I really have not experienced that many hardships or trauma in my life. Sometimes it makes me worry if I’m due for something bad to happen, if the other shoe was going to drop at some point. I know hardships are a part of life and I feel like I have had far less than normal

Something has been bothering me for a long time and I want to get it off my chest.

My firm does upward feedback and I asked about 10 of my team to participate so that I could be a better supervisor for them. My results: I got mostly great feedback with constructive points, however along with it I received the meanest, most cold hearted criticism I’ve ever seen (con’t in comments).

I started dating someone mid-Jan and the other night he told me he’s falling in love with me. I said it back (I am). But now I think I’m freaking out that things are going to change between us and ever since, I’ve been completely acting out and making fights out of absolutely nothing. How can I stop this???

Case 1: complaining about a date insisting on picking up the check as it makes them feel less independent.
Case 2: agreeing on 50/50, then being upset about why the date never picks up the check or treats them after 3 months of dating

In both cases, posted 5 days apart, they were advised to find someone else as it seems their date doesn’t respect their values (case 1) or value them enough to spend money on them (case 2).

Well, just 🤯

Female here and I hate to say it! But whenever I’m pull to a new project I secretly hope I don’t get a female lead. 😞 I had some interesting experiences with women leads, which it does not apply to all women!, but I feel a bit hesitant and I feel is ptsd lol how can I overcome this mentality?! I’m pro women and equally etc etc but I often rather deal with a dude lead Bc we women are so hard on each other. Smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭