How do we parent our teenager through middle school when they are the one who is seen as weird, strange, and not athletic? My husband was a basketball star, I was homeschooled during middle school, I don't know how to help him navigate kids who are jerks.

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All good advice, and I would just to do some role-playing. We did it a lot with our daughter who has ADHD, and it helped her have something to say that she had practiced first.

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Jerks can be found everywhere - middle school is the beginning of seeing who is the most insecure, weak, small-minded, etc. - and those are the jerks. And middle/high school is rough if not awful for most kids, whether they seem like they're fine or not.

The best thing you can do is talk to him, keep the trust with him, and give him ideas about how to find his niche. Could be a robotics club, coding, mathletics, etc. What does your guy enjoy? He needs buddies - maybe something outside school. Does he have friends?

Also, always have his back - kids are going to suck, remind him that they are the weak, insecure ones, and while that's cold comfort, those reminders will go far over time. Also - he'll make the best friends after public ed. and it's the "weird, strange" ones who are by far the coolest adults out there. Romy and Michelle are proof.

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My boys found their geeky, nerdy friends through band (then marching band), accelerated clubs & classes, & Boy Scouts. Good luck!

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Our 12-year-old son has always struggled in school due to his ADHD and other issues. 6th grade posed additional issues with puberty, with some of his classmates still children and others young adults almost overnight. He is smart but definitely not athletic. He has been bullied before and been suspended a couple of times for physically responding to bullies. I told him when he went to middle school that he couldn't do that, because it could result in expulsion. He has had some triumphs and tribulations this year, but overall it has been a good year. You have no control over the jerks at school. The best you can do is prepare your "quirky" kid to expect some issues and teach him how to respond. He will find his "tribe" in his class, kids of similar nature. At home, you can support him and let him know his strengths, show pride in his achievements, let him know it isn't necessary to be a quarterback or a cheerleader. You and your child will get through middle school just fine -- and so will we.

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Your husband was a basketball star.

Is he still a basketball star?

In the grand scheme of things, who knows, remembers, or cares that he was a basketball star? Maybe point out that it seemed and felt important in the moment but in the big picture, he doesn't particularly seem all that different from us unathletic weirdos?

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Knowing thy self is powerful 💥

My godson was miserable in 6-7th grade. Found the drama club in school and an outside local drama club. They formed a tight bond. He said it was the best experience of his school life and he made lifelong friends.

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Yeah, I think I need to get him in to a choir outside of school.

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Kids are so mean. THere is so much great advice in the comments above. Best you can do is be there for him and help him get through it. It really is tricky to navigate, that much I do know.

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I connect with posts that point to finding one’s interests, discovering new ones, and seeking like minds which is key throughout life.
Interest identification can also point to, or guide, potential career pathways and HS studies.

🤔💭PublicEd - reflecting on themes from socialization- assimilation.

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