How do you deal with a spouse who spends inordinate amount of money on family back home. Usually don’t mind, but of-late has been excessive and our family seems to be a second thought.

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Whose money is it? Your’s or your spouse?

Exactly! There is shared money and there is personal money. Personal can be spent on personal indulgences that only benefit one person.

Talk to your wife/husband ? People crowdsource everything today. It’s your damn relationship

Can be the husband too

Is your husband spending too much on his family back home? As long as he is taking care of your and kids needs, it’s ok to spend on parents

I was in similar situation. Whatever money I felt was not needed, I used to send it back home to my parents.

My spouse was upset about this. After multiple (verbal) altercations, I realized what would have been helpful was to create visibility into how that money was being spent. Since my parents are big into charity, my spouse feared we were just throwing away our money. Unfortunately, I couldn’t back track the past transferred money, but I did ensure we knew how the later transferred money was spent!

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