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My thought is to ask her just that in a nice way. Direct is better. “Hey, I know you have completely good intentions, but I wanted to ask you if you could stop calling me ‘hun’ and ‘sweetie’ in the workplace’. “
You can say the above nicely while still getting the point across. Give her some time to correct her habitual behavior though.
First and foremost, is she Southern, or raised by Southerners? Because my experience has been that, culturally speaking, it’s a lot harder (but not impossible, just noticeably harder) to redirect that language because it’s so very ingrained in day-to-day life when someone has roots in that region.
I’m a Southerner who doesn’t use this language (wasn’t used in my family growing up) and who cringes when I hear it from certain people. It is everywhere in the South, but most often from 60yo+ males and females, and often rural based.
Ugh I need to work on this. I always think “thanks honey” in my head if it’s one of my close coworkers. It doesn’t always come out of my mouth that way, but sometimes does. I would be totally fine with someone telling me to pump the brakes on it. Hope it changes once you address it, OP!
My perspective is that you’re blessed if this is the problem that bubbles up enough to inspire a solicitation of advice … ❤️ There are so many worse things to have to deal with IMHO. It’s likely coming from a kind place. Perhaps you can reciprocate that kindness by turning a blind eye. I hope you can find some solace knowing that you are not having to deal with more significant problems.
Speak up for yourself and explain to them you don’t feel comfortable on them calling you that. If they have an issue with that report it to HR
Try: “I know it isn’t your intention, but when you call me that, you remind me of my ex.” Or “My grandma. “ Or “The creepy uncle I was told to stay away from.” Any one of those should do the trick. 😜