How do you politely decline giving someone a referral to your company? I had a friend ask and I just don't feel comfortable doing it at this time.

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Be honest but empathetic.
Let them know that you haven’t known them well enough to refer and if it wasn’t to work out for any reason, it might come back to you.

Remember referring is a sign of kindness, if you feel you don’t have anything to lose from this, go for it as it might make a living for someone.
Also, after referring, the company will be as fair and just with this person as they will be with any stranger.

See if you can fetch the recruiters name and ask your friends to reach out to the recruiter on LinkedIn with a cold message. This is equally good.

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This is the truth at the company I work at.. but no matter who we refer, it doesn't impact the application at all. Unless you are super high up at the company and you can impact decision making, a referral does not do anything here.

Your friend should apply on their own.

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Just be honest, but kind. I am extremely picky about referrals. My general rule of thumb is that I won’t do them, but I have made exceptions and I’m very communicative about reasoning and the process when I do.

For me, I’ve worked very hard to have the reputation and background that I do. Whether the referral affects the hiring or not, their performance is a direct reflection on me and most of the time it’s just not worth that risk. And that’s okay! If someone is really your friend, they will understand.

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I don’t feel comfortable referring most people either. If their work ethic is poor, or even if it’s not equivalent to mine, or they call out work frequently, no way am I referring them. I’m not going to let another persons actions effect my credibility at work. No way, I take my career and work very seriously.

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Interesting I have never said no. It has no reflection on me. I won’t have my friends work in my department maybe that’s why. I have always sent the referral all that means at the carrier level is you are guaranteed an interview that’s it.

Just say you arent comfortable at this time

Depending on the relationship if the company is large enough and the referral won’t really affect you based on the job go ahead. BUT if it does, maybe say it in a joking way and ask them if they would refer themselves if the roles were reversed. People know who they are (or should know), or just tell them no offense or hard feelings but a referral is a reference and I don’t think I’m the best person to do that for you for these reasons…

Just say no.

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