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Relax. You are only dating him. He still has the ability to make his own life choices - including his style of hair or the underwear colour he wears!
D you were funny until you went grammar nazi
You love people for what THEY want to be, not for what YOU want them to be. Your approach to loving someone will change and mature over the years, for now try to learn why you are triggered (one way or the other) by his haircut.
I wouldn’t start listening to your preferences for me until I got a firm commitment from you that we were in a meaningful, long-term relationship. Especially on items that I feel define me as an individual and is personal. I mean, I’d certainly take it into consideration but that’s about it. How would you feel if he did the same to you about your hair?
Tell him you like the opposite of what you really like and I guarantee he’ll do the opposite which will end up being the way you like it 😂
OP, just tell him how much you like it (cut short or whatever) and then when he has it the way you like it remind him how much you like it and give him lots of affection. Positive reinforcement.
I agree with K1. I’m a guy and I would have no prob with that.
If he is confident, he may not change it if he doesn’t want to, but it shouldn’t be a problem to bring it up.
@kpmg- I wasn’t trying to be funny, but happy to have given you a chuckle :)
Nothing wrong in telling him what you like.. after all a relationship is about give and take from both sides.. if he doesn’t want to do that for you, it is an indication of where his boundaries are.. gives you a clearer idea of how your relationship would grow.. or not.
I actually had the same problem when i first started dating my now fiancé. I told him “maybe you should try growing your hair out a little. It really brings out your eyes”. He actually didn’t have a problem with it and liked my advice
My friends and I just had a conversation about how we dread when our BFs/husbands get haircuts, because they’re so inconsistent and you never know what they’re going to look like when they come home.
Additionally - incorrect language. “ you are” not "your".
Sounds like you're not that attracted to him
Perhaps his employer prefers it short
You have the following options:
1) The Complement: Tell him how much you like it and flatter him
2) The Ultimatum: Tell him to keep it how you like it or it’s over between you two
3) The Revengeful Act: Cut his Hair in his sleep and when he asks why just say that if he cut it without asking your opinion you wanted to cut it without asking his permission.
4) The Ignoring Act: Pretend like he never cut his hair and ignore all future changes until it either stops bothering you or boils over and ignited a huge fight
What’s the big deal just tell him you love his hair long.... it’s not like you are changing a personality, these are such minor things.
You should be fine OP. Maybe he just does not know what you like.
When I was dating I definitely appreciated when I got feedback like that and didn’t mind adjusting few small things unless it was about changing who I am, my values, etc.
Sounds like you already told him
Lol tell me how you would want that guy to tell you the same thing