Related Posts
More Posts
How are the hikes at @UBS
Most sweatshop agencies?
Additional Posts in Tech Strategy & Product
AWS vs Amazon PM roles?
Facebook (Meta) Product Management (IC5) or Google Cloud Marketing S&O/ Annual Planning (L6) role if I want to eventually be working on Product Strategy for consumer tech?
Heard it hard to pivot from Google S&O to Product Strategy even with 20% projects internally…
Facebook (Meta) | Google
What’s a good CISA program?
Coach
New to Fishbowl?
Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
So, this is difficult but if you are stuck in this long term and need to rise above, you can get spiritual about it and actually improve yourself in the process. 🧘
There is a powerful concept I hated and then learned to LOVE called the “tyrant’s teaching”
- where you get introspective when someone really pushes your buttons and you flip the POV onto yourself.
- truthfully, these are _your_ personality “buttons” and you need to own them and look into it.
-in reality, anyone could push them accidentally, and many will, so are they so important to you as some psychological protection?
- this person is just being themselves and it interacts with you in a way to piss you off. Why do you have these buttons? Can you tone them down so you are less reactive to people that trigger this for you?
- very often we dislike in others things that we truly don’t like about ourselves. This can really rock your world if you come face to face with yourself thru another person repeatedly pissing you off! 🤔
- keep in mind most of the time, it is not their fault they are pushing your buttons. (Unless of course they know these are your edges and wickedly looking to irritate the way a sibling might).
Respectfully, I disagree with just about all of what was just said in the last response. While there is value in understanding why you hate, this is not related to the heart of the issue stated. Reaching out for help is not the negative in a situation like this and should not be pointed back to the individual asking. It would be better to understand why the individual identified in this case has the opportunity to control the narrative if not accurate. Take the anger out and lien on the facts and delivery from you and your team. Do your best, always be at your best, and this should fix itself in the long run.
Best way, is to get your head down, look after your area of expertise and don't allow him to crowd your space. They will get found out at some point.
I am a great believer in what goes around comes around and it works. It may take a little longer than you would like to come to fruition, but look at your role and carry on do the best you can.
The fact he is taking that much headspace from you means let it go. Not easy of course but as long as you are doing a great job and you know that then hopefully that helps.
We have the same. It's very frustrating, but I will keep my house in order and fingers crossed the persons here will get found out.
If not then so be it, I do my job as best I can, go home, see my family and that is the most important thing.
There will always be people like that. As much as you want to scream at the person just give him the minimum he requires from you and make it clear, but in a subtle way, you know his game.
The way to deal with this is to do your job at the highest level. If you are a true professional at a high level, your output and skill will be plainly obvious to those above you. At my current job I am on every shift possible as they know I am reliable and there are no drama or problems. Mind you, this took 2 years of being 100% reliable, honest, and sincerely working to have my manager's back. The other fakers will eventually fall on their face and that will be that.
IE - they can't beat you on honesty, work ethic, or being there when there's an actual emergency ( or better yet keeping one from happening due to your attention to detail), so double-down on those skills as these are ones they simply won't have. And at the worst, you're training yourself for a next job by keeping up to date.
It does not sound like a great work environment to be in. Is it possible to change teams or are you pretty much stuck where you are at?
Hi I've been there lol I want you to remember your family or yourself as to why your there. Not there to make friends even though it be nice.