How many nights a week are you OR your partner not home with your kids? Even part of the time. Like dinners for work, dates, going to a workout class after family dinner, working late, etc.

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3-6 depending on whats going on. Probably just once every 2-3 weeks when its both of us but with kids eating at 6, nights with friends, working late (we both work and are busy) it can be tough. Works for us, I try not to overthink it and be present when I am with them

I encourage and never say No to my wife having a night with friends or even a vacation with them. She has a good friend network that helps, but the way i see it is I have lots of work things pulling me away and I try to make it fair. It does get easier as the kids get older, the main thing for me is the get balance for you both. Kids are really hard, but you shouldn’t feel guilty, you clearly care enough to encourage her but its her choice, she is probably worried about the kid and that will lesson over time. Tbh my wife goes out soxially way more than me and i am totally fine with it, she worries I dont see friends enough but I am totally fine, she may be in the same boat.

Also remember you gotta do what you need to keep you happy, otherwise its a cancer on the relationship.

Maybe try talking to her friends, have them ask and you encourage might make the difference. Good luck man!

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