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Some other details - very independent and definitely not open to being a traditional bahu. I don’t know my caste and I’m not religious (and I don’t care about someone else’s either).
I would just like to meet some like minded Indian men that want a lifelong relationship. Dating apps in US don’t cut it. Would Shaadi.com be the other extreme?

Agree. Speaking as someone very similar to you - I did meet some pretty decent people on it (lots of weird ppl too, but that’s the case with anything in the world). Go for the self created / managed profiles, and be pretty straightforward in your description of yourself - highlighting things like being very independent etc. so you attract the kind of people who value that

You might have better luck just socializing in-person since marriage websites can get hectic. Dating apps in the US aren’t too bad - is a bad experience holding you up? Dating apps can be a little more chill and relaxed compared to other options.

Go for it OP, once you cross 30, most Indian parents would settle for a daughter in law, caste requirements go out the window. You have nothing to lose

35 F too OP, but I am married. I think majority profiles on shaadi site will be driven by parents or ones created under their pressure. If you are looking for someone similar minded and not for traditional daughter in law role, it is best to do some due diligence upfront when speaking to someone on these sites. I have another Indian origin female friend and we always talk about finding someone whose parents came over to US, are better assimilated culture wise and are not expecting a traditional Indian bride. Will also be great if your MIL was/ is a working mother. She’ll be much more in tune with your thinking and chances are, her son grew seeing more balanced share of workload among parents and will be okay with a non-traditional way of living.

Again, above is only an example. There are many parents in India too (ones who’ve traveled, lived abroad, both working parents etc.) who can be just like the ones described above. I’m just sharing an example of what might work in your case. Be open to any/ all avenues you have (talking to strangers, being open to conversations in public places and dating sites etc etc.)

Try it, meet some people, what do you have to lose

35M here. Hit me up if you would like to chat sometime

Can totally relate to you and in my mid 30s. Met my husband on shaadi. 2 key insights - create and manage your own profile; be proactive, filter people based on your criteria and reach out to them

I'm doing that but F are super flaky..

37F here. I met my fiancé on Shaadi. I also met several nice guys on Shaadi. Per everyone’s suggestion above, look for self created/managed profiles.

Shaadi.com post underneath yours in my feed.

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