How the heck do people meet, date and develop meaningful relationships while building their careers? I am drowning here. I am not dating. I have full time job as a Senior Accountant. I am going through my companies leadership program. I have also started taking graduate courses towards graduate degree. I would like to date someone, a plant even. Finding the time and not feeling drained…

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I feel your pain OP, it’s going to be hard. When I had to work a ton, I just accepted the fact that I was going to be single until things calmed down. The person you date is going to need some of your time and attention, so if you currently can’t offer that you should wait to date. Once things calmed down a bit, I put myself out there and found someone who could understand my busy schedule. However, I make sacrifices to ensure I can see him regularly and that he doesn’t feel neglected.

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Sounds you have the right mindset about it! I’d wish you luck accomplishing your goals, but I can tell you’re a driven person who doesn’t need luck! 💪🏾 The right person will come along after February!

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So stop trying to do so many things? Relationship require you to invest time and if you don’t have that time then just focus on what you need to do for now.

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Use dating apps like the rest of us. Stay persistent!

I found my queen online! And it took forever but my persistence paid off.

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Finding someone that has the same bandwidth was a life changer for me. We were always on the same page and didn't have to make excuses for why we weren't available

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Weekends ?

Suck it up, stop being lazy with your social life, and prioritize what is important to you.

Do you go to the gym somewhat frequently? Do you hang out with friends? Do you have a hobby you spend a few hours per week doing? Do you watch hours of TV each week?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then you have time, you just dedicate it towards other things.

If dating is important to you, then you’ll treat it just like the activities mentioned above.

An LDP necessitates maybe 50 hours per week? What are you doing after work? Graduate coursework? Ok fine, but I doubt this is everyday.
What are you doing during the 48 hours you have on the weekends? ~16 are for sleep. What are you doing with the other ~32 hours?

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