I asked my coworker if she wanted anything from Starbucks since I was going down to the lobby to get some coffee, and assumed she would reimburse me for it. She ordered a $7 drink and didn’t offer to pay me back or say anything about getting the next one. We aren’t friends outside of work so I was a little surprised. Am I in the wrong for expecting payment?

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You offered so she thought you were being nice. While she should offer to pay you for it, she might not see it that way. Next time mention that she can order it in the app and you will be happy to pick it up.

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If you said “hey want to get a coffee at Starbucks?” I would assume we’d go and get coffee.

If you said “hey can I get you something at Starbucks?” I would say “awesome, thank you!!” and I wouldn’t give you money for it.

Moral of the story…Don’t offer to do nice things if you don’t want to pay for said thing. 🤷🏼‍♂️

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Well I’m old I guess 🤷🏼‍♂️ I was taught when you offer to do nice things for people, you don’t expect reward for it.

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Put your Venmo handle here and I’ll pay you $14 to reimburse you and buy your next one. I’m not kidding.

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You bought someone a coffee, just let it be lol

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I genuinely would’ve thought you were treating the way it was asked. I also would’ve offered to pay expecting not to (but of course would if that clarified the situation).

When my team goes they usually say “I’m going for a run, put your orders in”

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Are you her boss? Maybe she assumed it was firm sponsored?

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This happened to me before I quit offering. Then I got questioned why I was rude in not asking others. When I explained the situation to it manger she laughed and told me what's the big deal. I thought it was rude and I explained it happened several times and think it's unacceptable.

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Only $7…. Don’t stress about it. Good Karma will get you better things.

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That's why I always say no thanks. If they insist they are probably paying, if not, then not

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It comes from how you were raised . It a courtesy thing . You offered she ordered and she should pay . Choke it up for now and be cautious when you offer to do something for others.

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Next time word your offer as “I just ordered myself Starbucks. Do you want anything? Okay let me know when you place your order.” Also don’t ever include someone else’s order in yours unless you do mean to pay for them, or there’s a clear agreement about being paid back and how. Otherwise everyone can place their own order.

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Depends on the firm you work for. At big 4, for example, the coffee will be charged as a meal/snack expense if you are traveling for work. It may be that the person thought the $$ will be expensed to the firm so maybe next time find a way to set expectations or don’t even offer. You can even casually mention at some point that you wish the firm will pay for coffees instead of it coming out of employees pocket maybe she will get it.

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Unfortunately we don’t have any allowance for cool stuff.

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Personally, I'd never not offer to reimburse someone.

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I also would have thought you were getting me a drink for free. Take it as that do not ask for payment. You gave her a gift and leave it at that. Like lending money never expect it back... u gifted it.

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If she is a girl then don’t expect the payment back very few do pay and nowadays coworkers adopt this trend of not paying back regardless of male or female

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Whether how you asked that person should have the common morals, courtesy, and respect to ask how much it was. Normally I would ask if someone wanted one, they asked how much, and I said either the total or grab me the next one.

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Just bring it up that it costs a lot

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I would not ask money unless she pays back. Next time when she orders, you add your order and forget, lol.

Should’ve said did you want anything

Ask her one day to go with you to get a coffee and make her pay for yours!

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