Related Posts
More Posts
Dating a girl with Barney's discount #winning
I'm looking for a job... Please help...
Hello!
I am looking to hire two Sr. Software Engineers. One on a front-end focused using React.js w/ Typescript and a full stack Engineer.
We are a growing digital health startup and looking to hire awesome people to help spread our mission for our application that helps loved ones who are aging or have special needs live with dignity and purpose while reducing the stress, strain, work, and worry for their family members.
Website: www.homethrive.com/ or DM here on fishbowl!
Mentor
Sharing is caring 🐾
Football fans name their sons after their favourite club stars but why this changes when they are expecting a girl? Maybe they still haven’t realized the great female teams they have. A print campaign to embrace the best footballers and continue supporting women’s football. See all the posters here: https://twitter.com/anasophia10/status/1368862345930346496?s=21
New to Fishbowl?
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
The question was definitely inappropriate. I guess my opinion on your response depends on the delivery. Was it agitated, inquisitive, polite, hostile? While I do agree that the question was definitely inappropriate and not their place to ask, I tend to be pretty non-confrontational during interviews, despite how inappropriate the other person is.
I feel my response was calm and collected, yet very direct. Which I think was appropriate in that setting. I just don’t think the interviewer expected a woman to stand up for herself. Yes, I am a mother and it’s a part of me. But it’s not all of me. It doesn’t change my skill set, experience or work ethic. So that’s where the response stemmed from
The interviewer’s question was highly inappropriate. In fact, if you felt like you didn’t get the role because of the way you answered (which I would have answered the same way), I would bring it up with HR.
What was the tone? I will get offended depends on the tone of the people asking the question. Although others might disagree with me but I don't think it's not inappropriate at all. Women after giving birth usually chose to breastfeed their child while men don't. Maybe it was a normal interview question and you are just sensitive because you just gave birth (I assume you are because of the question). You could've answered it in a way will make him realize that whatever his intentions are women are stronger than they think.
The tone was professional the entire time, yet also direct. I don’t believe my response was due to hormones/being sensitive. It was based on the principle of the question and how it was directed at motherhood, versus parenthood in general
Rising Star
Could you ask HR? Im pretty non confrontational so I would say something along the lines of “hey I really want to advance my career at company XYZ. There was one interview question that threw me off and I’d like some coaching on how to handle it next time I get the opportunity to interview”
Go to HR. That question was inappropriate and possibly illegal/discriminatory. That interviewer should be reported.
That is definitely not an HR approved question to ask. And perhaps you should share it as feedback to the company. However, if that’s the mindset of the hiring team, it might not be the right fit for tou
It’s an inappropriate question, but a better answer could have been - I don’t believe your question bears relevance to this position. I would not have made it a male vs female thing. But, it’s hard to react in the moment.
Your interviewer was 100% in the wrong with their phrasing, bordering on illegal.