I cried at my desk for the first time today. Year 3. I’m tired.

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Virtual hug. I don’t know what happened but if it is an one off bad day, it will get better. Do only what needs to be done today and be nice to yourself. Take a nice bubble bath, eat that cake or drink that wine/beer. Call a friend who would always take your side and hear why you are so amazing. Sleep early. Tomorrow, you get back up and fix it/finish whatever caused the mess today. In 2 years, this will be a dull memory.

If it is a toxic situation, do the above and on the weekend update your resume. Life is too short to stay at a toxic place.

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Thank you. Nothing particularly bad happened, just multiple 13 hour days in a row. I just want to lay down but I still can’t.

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Been there. I was exhausted and just couldn’t anymore. This was when we were in the office and I definitely made another associate uncomfortable. But a senior associate I didn’t know well found me crying in the bathroom, gave me a hug, told me she had been there, and told me whatever it was, I needed to sleep. I got through it, things got better. I still remember that hug.

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First time in 2 years? You’re doing well my friend! Just remember these days are few and far apart

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I have wanted to just abandon my practice several times in recent days, honestly, and just go have a subsistence lifestyle in Belize or some shit. It usually passes by morning.

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hang in there. this job can really suck and you need a good support group and some real TLC for the self care days. sending you a hug!!

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Be proud! You made it to year 3 without crying!

But yeah, it happens. I had a run of 100+ hour weeks last month and broke down at my desk after a partner scolded me for not completing something fast enough. Sometimes it be like that.

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