I feel hurt by someone I trusted/thought of as a friend (summary: he begged to hook up & after every we did, he put me down "you're a slut for doing this" etc). How do you get over feeling wronged?

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First off he’s an ASSHOLE! Second you are grown & did something you wanted to do. Don’t be down on yourself for doing anything you did. It felt right to you in the moment & that’s what matters

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Please try your hardest to not give that jerk anymore of your time or energy. You can’t let someone that was so callous with your feelings affect your job though. This is how we make a living. I truly do hope things get better for you soon!

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Wow I can understand more why you’re so hurt since he’s your first. Please don’t give him the time of day & go on with your life doing the things that make you happy

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You have a pity party for a day or two but during that time allow yourself to forgive yourself for being human. When people show you who they are the first time believe them. Take this as a lesson learned. Keep your head up and move on. Don’t give that dumbass the pleasure of thinking you actually care.

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Hey guys! Yea I feel better :) I do think about him sometimes unfortunately --I try to focus on his negatives, but sometimes I do miss the good times we had.

I'm glad I've been really busy these days so I can keep my mind off it. Working a lot has helped my self esteem too (the little victories are starting to add up!). Also venting on here helps 😬

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OP, glad to know you're doing great. If Mr. D. Baggery does come crawling back, the only positive would be you get to give him a piece of your mind and tell him to take a hike! Maybe also Snap us if/when this payback happens!

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OP I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope since a few weeks have gone by, you’re starting to feel better and not giving him the time of day!

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Audit Staff OP COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS that this NO CLASS LOSER showed his TRUE COLORS early! Kick him to the curb in your mind...IMMEDIATELY! Why would you spend even a MOMENT feeling badly, or missing a MAN-BOY who treated you so shabbily! Don’t you DARE lower yourself to allow him into your life for any reason. The way in which he abused your trust and the shared intimacy is abhorrent! Don’t tell him his behavior is wrong...tell yourself and kick him to the curb in ALL ways! You don’t tell people how to treat you. You SHOW them! 🦋 Sending you a virtual hug! You DESERVE better!

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You're so right. It's no reason to be distracted. I'm hoping the feelings will go away with time. I just wanted to post to see if anyone else has been in this situation and how they didn't let it affect their self esteem.

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Someone else’s actions shouldn’t change how we feel about ourselves. Please know I have been wronged by men & called every single name you could think of. It stings at first but then I walk away with the F U attitude & feel bad they are so miserable to want to intentionally hurt another persons feelings. Humans can be pretty crappy sometimes. I know it’s easier said than done but make sure you speak positive things to yourself daily. I can admit I slept with a guy I worked with for 1 1/2yrs but found out he was messing with several other woman in the office as well. Explained why he wanted it to be a total secret

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OP, tons of low cal ice cream! Helped me a lot! Give it a go. If you're in NYC, I'm heading for some this afternoon.

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Thanks ey1! I plan on doing just that :)

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Helps me focus! If I can stay focused on things I have control over the things I don't want to think about.

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Ey3: 😘😘 reading this made me feel better. I'm happy to say that I feel like I'm doing really well. In fact, I saw him 2 weeks ago for the first time in a long time, and I felt okay. I was civil but definitely kept my distance. Not gonna lie, part of me wished he would back to me as a changed person. But he's a classic narcissist so I doubt he would change 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Thanks ey1! If this payback ever happens, you all will be the first to know! I'll keep you guys updated!

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He's the worst! But somehow I find myself missing him. I'm not sure why--he said a lot of terrible things after we finished. It's driving me crazy and it's affecting my work 😔

Ugh I'm sorry you went through that. Someone people just don't have the capacity to be decent.

This guy took my V, criticized me for "giving it up", told me doing it with him should be one of the best experiences of my life, and told me he's not going to hook up with me anymore...but if he does he's going to be more "aggressive" now that I am "experienced."

I can't wait until the day I can finally get over it and roll my eyes at this bullshit.

OP, have you tried a class in meditation? It helped me a lot.

Ey1 I haven't! I actually didn't even think of that. How did it help you?

Oh sounds helpful. I will look into it!

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