I feel invisible in my office, socially. It really is affecting my mental health. I’m not sure what to do..

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Some of us are just not "that" girl, the life of the party, the one everyone wants to sit with at break. It doesn't matter if you're 15 or 50, "Heather" gets the attention and "Jane" gets snubbed. We like to say that men may get older, but they never really mature. I often feel the same applies to women. Adopt this motto to save your mental health: Illegitimi non carborundum (Don't let the bastards grind you down).

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Firstly chill out! We all feel like that from time to time. Just do what you need to do and help will be on it's way. Hang in there! When the going gets tough, the tough get going and they don't give up that easily. Tackle little chunks of work and do it well so that you are satisfied with your progress.

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How long have you been with the company?

Is your office cliquey? Or do you just not seem to vibe with your colleagues?

Same. I’m about 6 months in but push myself to make a once a month coffee date with different coworkers. It’s always welcomed and just nice to step away for 20-30 minutes to get to know someone outside of work. Also if there are any committees to join that has helped me. If you’re new you may have to go out of your way/be proactive to make connections.

I'm not there with you so I don't know the exact experiences, but I would say more often than not, it's not personal. You have to be very bold and borderline loquacious to be notice in the corporate/finance world. I have accepted that that's not my personality. There's nothing wrong with you, trust me.

Don't pressure yourself, Chill. Most introverts face these situations. You will get over it.

the same I'm not included in any decision that has been made by my manager and when i ask he keeps telling that I'm still young and there is still so much to learn but how can I learn if everyone is treating me like I don't exist?

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