I got offered my dream job in industry and just found out I'm pregnant. Their compensation is awesome but their mat leave sucks. Stay put till after mat leave or move to my dream job now?

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Move and figure it out later.

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@CW1 That's a really close minded and outdated way of looking at it. The baby is NOT the only thing that matters. Having kids does not have to mean you stop caring about yourself or your own dreams. Calling the OP selfish if she pursues her dreams and makes it work is very condescending. So that's how you'd live your life, peachy. There are people that would do it differently and still find a way to kick ass at both.

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If you stay put, the earliest you would conceivably take a new job would be what, a year from now? A lot can change in a year. Not saying don't stay, just don't count on having the same array of options you have today. You said you've gotten an offer, so why not negotiate? Seems like you're in a position of good leverage.

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I think it's foolish — and somewhat selfish — to take the job. The baby is all that matters.

If your current company has better benefits, you're going to need them, especially if your pregnancy ends up having complications.

Also, quite often after the bonding period, the mother chooses to quit or only come back part-time. That happens a lot.

Taking on a new job is known to be one of the most stressful things you can do (Google it), and that can lead to pregnancy complications.

If you truly want to keep this baby, focus on it, not your career goals. Your career can come later, or maybe it soon won't matter at all.

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Congrats! On both

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The benefits are really something you can make the call on given your own personal financial situation. That said you can certainly try to negotiate a better leave or once you're in and proven your value, negotiate additional leave then. I started my job 3 months into my pregnancy and was able to get a few extra weeks on top of my companies standard policy.

Yes starting a new job can be stressful but I find CW1s response more than a bit alarmist. Just listen to your body and your healthcare provider and you are at no greater risk for complications than you would be if you stayed in your current role. Congrats and good luck!

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Take the job, when are you going to get this chance again? And if you JUST discovered you're pregnant, you won't be on mat leave for at least 6-8 months, which is enough time to establish a reputation. People are going off female stereotypes and old gender norms and saying you're going to only care about the baby when it comes - only you know yourself well enough to know if a complete career 180 is something you're likely to do. And even if it is, so what? Set yourself up for the best of both worlds. You can quit any job to be a STAM, but you can't get your dream job again nearly as easily. Get yourself into the best position possible so you have all the details and options when decision time comes. And if you work for six months and then quit, honestly the company will survive.

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A lot of valid points on here. You should think about what matters to you and how it all aligns with who you are and your values. This is way too personal to rely on other people's advice. But do spend time thinking about the various points raised to help you sort it through.

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Take the job, you may not have another opportunity for your dream job in the future.

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Agree with the above. Early in my career I had an opportunity to work for my dream agency in my dream city. I was young and my wife felt the offer was risky so I pushed back and the window closed. My career would have been very different had I just taken it.

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^ yea man, work isn't everything. Got a few years to get tight with your baby, don't sacrifice that to make some dickwad client happy.

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I'd say it depends on your financial situation. Even if the other company doesn't have the best maternity leave, you legally are allowed to take up to three months off *UNPAID* as part of the FMLA. That isn't attainable for most people though. Perhaps the new company offers other perks like flexible work schedules or work from home days? But i agree with other posters; firm benefits are extremely helpful once you're pregnant and out on maternity leave

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Negotiate for better maternity leave as a part of benefits along with salary and don't settle for anything less than ideal. If they don't offer you what you need, they don't deserve you- There will always be more opportunities

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One thing no one has mentioned: If you do decide to come back part-time or something like that, an employer that you have a history with is more likely to be open to that kind of arrangement, since you've already proven your worth and people like having you around.

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Right, but don't be a slave to circumstances. Your life should be driven by you as much as possible. Thinking that something is the be all, end all "dream" that's never coming your way again is just not true and imprisoning. You can work to create the opportunities in your life. A defeatist attitude will get you nowhere either.

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Dream jobs don't come around often.

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Not knowing anything at all about OP's circumstances, including age and health, all I can say is that ALL my female working friends talked a big game along the lines of 72, and absolutely changed their tune to some variation of CW1... So again, OP, think about you and what your gut tells you and what matters to you and only you

*Changed their tune after having their baby

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