I had my PMS hormones kick in during work the other day and I feel like I spoke quite rudely (more like irritably) to an employee. I really want to apologize but somehow my brain has turned this into such an awkward situation. How should I approach this? Thanks ladies!

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"hey, I want to apologize for how I spoke to you yesterday. I did not intend to come off rude. I'm trying to manage a few personal things, and wanted to make sure you knew I'm not upset with you. I'm very sorry."

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Remove the “I’m trying to manage a few personal things” and this is great.

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Just apologize. Leave your hormones out of it.

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Totally agree- to me using that as a reasoning takes away the accountability you should show for your own control of your actions. We are all human and have things pop up where we want to behave out of of controlled character- own it apologize and do better next time when you’re feeling that way

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Agree with all the above. I was under alot of stress one day and acted in a way that was not my usual self and in a way I wasn’t proud of. After I was able to catch my breath, I apologized the next day and told the person it was inappropriate and wouldn’t happen again. They were very understanding (they knew it wasn’t how I normally act) and appreciated the apology. Leader up, apologize, and move on.

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I would politely apologize but do not give any reason - the moment you allude to PMS or a condition that caused you to be emotional or irrational, you are painting yourself in a corner.

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Everyone is different. In the past, I have appreciated when my leaders have been honest/relatable with me, in this kind of situation. I’m female though and not sure I’d take that approach with everyone. Good luck!

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I try and make anything funny , yeah it’s unhealthy. I know, but I am who I am. So I would probably approach the subject something like this. “ did you recognize that lady the other day who came to work in a very foul mood?” “Yeah sorry about that You didn’t deserve that. That was all me. I don’t know what happened that day but I’m gonna work real hard for that not to happen again and I just wanted you to know that I genuinely apologize for how I talk to you.

An apology is in order for sure. Some people are more sensitive than others. When people show you who they are …. Believe them. So don’t expect the relationship to go back to the way it was, may have been permanently fractured.

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