I have a fairly new member on my team. She has a lot of positive attributes, but isn't getting along with a few members of management and it's escalating. When she gets requests from them, she often pushes back that it's not a good idea and they don't know what they're doing. She's also a little headstrong and it's rubbing them the wrong way too. I'm trying to save her, but I'm struggling on how to get her to see the light. Any ideas? I'm getting a ton of pressure to let her go 🤦🏾‍♀️

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I have been asked to help or mentor employees with similar issues. I suggest to them that it is imperative to make small deposits to build trust. Build up that account and then those leaders might ask and listen for your perspective in other areas. Honestly if your employee isn’t willing to take this approach, you may not be able to save them.

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Good suggestion. Thanks!

I mean, are they good ideas?

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Yeah, it’s a tough lesson to learn. Maybe have a candid conversation? Just literally tell them if they don’t tone it down a bit, there’s going to be issues and that their time will come to make decisions and have input.

Maybe roll her off and put on another project of yours if possible?
I had similar situation in the past when client contact didn’t like me (I was leading headcount reduction stream 🙄) , but partner on the project trusted me whilst willing to please the client as well. He just moved me to another project and everyone was happy

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People need to learn how to swim in their own lane before you remove the ropes. She is new so set boundaries now. She could be trying to impress you or exert authority because she thinks she can or should - regardless of positive attributes and untapped talent, she needs to learn how to work in your culture first so that is where you should meet her.

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Lots of good advice here. The one thing I would add is you're not doing her any favors if you're not sharing the impact with her. If she's rubbing management the wrong way, she needs to know so that she can adjust and make the choice. She may just decide that it's not worth pushing back to avoid possible issue in the future. She may decide to bring you in earlier, or leverage the relationships of others on your team, etc. Work with her to solve this. Use it as a growth opportunity for you both that makes her one of your star players.

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