I have been experiencing chronic rejection and disappointment in all aspects of my life. Any helpful advice for me?

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Most rejections turn out to be blessings. Eg, a job that wouldn’t have been a great fit rejects you. That frees you up for a job that would be a better fit. Same thing with friends and romantic relationships. If it’s not a perfect fit, the rejected is doing you a favor by freeing you up for a better fit. Focus less on other people (you can’t control them anyway) and what they think of you. Instead, focus on yourself and what gives you purpose or interests you or that you enjoy or makes you happy. Do that. Keep doing that. Natural relationships (personal and professional) will follow naturally from that. It takes time. But is worth it

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Thank you. I needed to hear this.

You might need to change the way of thinking. Plenty of doors closed for me and they continue to close for me, but at the same time there are other doors that open or I push them open.

Happy to chat if easier.

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