This is super weird but I feel like I can’t relate easily to people. Hear me out - I moved and lived in different continents, countries every 5 years or so until now… I feel like I’m an outlier and my life is super different from anyone else’s. I have some friends I’ve met at each stage of my life, but it’s been temporary. I feel like I’m always going in a different direction than others. It makes it difficult to have a stable life and close friends..

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I get it. I’ve also moved constantly for the last 16 years. It is true that you stop part of the “core” of any group when not physically present. I haven’t found a solution/way around it other than just being okay with it. I’m okay with having close friends from time to time knowing they won’t be close friends forever.

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Yeah it’s just a matter of accepting it and letting go.. I still have a hard time knowing that people I meet aren’t going to be close friends but I’ve been constantly moving all my life (literally from 1 yo to 24yo!). I’m hoping I can settle somewhere for the long term though but I’m not sure if I can do it because I get bored easily and am just used to moving ! 😆

I don't think you are going very different from others. You haven't had friends long enough to know you are going towards the same.

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can relate :/ still just trying to accept it, always great to think about how great it's been to live multiple places but always a bummer when I think about my fragmented groups of friends

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Yeah I feel the same! It’s good to know I’m not alone. I wish I could physically meet people having these same experiences because it’s easier to relate!

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I’m in the same boat. 7 years in Singapore and now 6 years in Germany and thinking about moving again. I’m still in contact with a few friends back in Singapore. One visited me once and we don’t really text often, but I don’t feel like we are strangers either. I did feel the distance grew with some friends in Germany here once they moved to another city, but I keep in contact with one that moved to another city and we try to travel together at least once a year. I just try to be friends with whoever is in the same cities with me for as long as possible and don’t think too much. Enjoy the time with whoever that is currently in your life. It sometimes makes me sad but that’s life and I don’t want to change my goals because of the friendship issue

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I have the same issue! I think I’m overthinking about it and it’s been quite frustrating since I moved to NY because I’ve met a lot of “temporary” friends because of just superficial relationships.. ! I stay in contact with a lot of friends abroad and try to visit them when I’m on vacation though which is great.

Same. Where are you based op?

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I’m now in NY ! I constantly moved in other continents / countries every 5 years on average since I was born ! I’m 26 now.

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I would love to learn more about your life story and hear what it's like to live in different continents! I've lived and now work in the same area I was born in

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Third culture kids always feel like they don’t belong anywhere and they’re looking for that fulfillment. I’ve moved my life from Asia, Europe to US and at the end I just stopped looking and learned to be comfortable with yourself

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