I just accepted an offer for an in house counsel position and now need to break it to my bosses. I care a lot about them and my relationship with them, and for the most part they’ve done what they can to keep me around with raises, autonomy, etc. what’s the best way to break up with the firm?

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I always just think this way “they can/will replace you 30 minutes after you leave.” But I get it, we’re human beings! What I did is to ask them if they’re available for a call or video (depends how close you are to them) and do the break up then.

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Just be courteous and professional. I'm sure they'll understand. If at a firm, they know the firm business model is that not everyone will stick around until they make it to the top

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(Following cus I am about to do the same.) Congratulations OP! Rather than worry about the perfect way to do it, I would recommend being direct, unapologetic, courteous and professional. No one will remember how you broke the news probably 10 minutes later. Especially as a woman I feel guilt for “letting down” employers when I leave, but it has always been way less emotional on their end than mine! Good luck :)

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This sounds perfect for you! More work is better when you are actually interested in the mission and subject matter. Way to follow your heart!

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I was a well-loved and praised senior attorney about to be promoted to partner when I broke the news I was going in house. It was hard, but most people were kind because I was sincerely appreciative and they’ve all moved on. You’ll be fine and they’ll be fine.

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