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Certainly something to contemplate further.
I'm moderate to left leaning. My ex and her friend circle were strong Republicans and all had voted for Trump in the last cycle. I found out on date 3 as we were discussing views on some topics.
In general, our discussions on the topic were very respectful, and we discussed why we felt the way we did on different topics. Wasn't an issue during our relationship. Unfortunately, it lasted only 5 months. While we broke up due to differences in future goals, I have a strong feeling that one of her friends influenced her decision. They were all white and I'm brown and I always had the feeling that this one friend disliked me and race and political leaning were factors.
Curious to hear how her friend circle is. Are they diverse or all share the same views? Are you able to have rational conversations with her about her views? Chances are she likes some of the conservative policies (my ex did) and perhaps is willing to overlook Trump. Also, are your values on key issues aligned?
All her friends have diverse political views. If anything, she’s religious but she admits to not following politics closely. I know she is pro-choice but she said it wasn’t a religious reason. So it’s all so puzzling to me. She is really into feminine–masculine balance, and I am “traditional” in that sense (the man is the breadwinner, etc). We align there. Holy cow, could it really be as simple as she doesn’t feel safe with a woman as the president? I also just found out she voted for Trump in 2016 because she hated Hillary (I was a Bernie guy so I understood the dislike of Hillary). But I think I just figured it out literally in typing my response to you.
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I’m not sure if you’re into any sports, but to me this is very similar to someone secretly being a Yankees fan and dating someone who is a Redsox fan, at the end of the day the organization being admired and backed by either of you don’t really care about you and make a lot more money and have alit more power than either of you so I wouldn’t overthink or take it too seriously, if you get along fine and you are attracted to each other keep it going.
Hah she is Yankees and I am Mets 😂 we had a laugh about it.
I think you are right. We aren’t even in a swing state.
I think you are overthinking this, this coming from a black man who voted trump but doesn’t let politics define me. A lot of people now days think that political leaning = character, but to me it’s all about policies. I’ve had a heard time financially under Biden and can not stand another 4 yrs of his policies, obviously there numerous things I don’t agree with trump but this to me is all about the economy
OK, another person here who keeps ignoring the topic. The topic is not about Trump v Harris. The topic is about a couple with opposing politics, and how should one proceed (especially after discovering she hid her views on purpose).
You are not overthinking this. I could never date a Trump supporter as it's a complete break from my core values.
I also think in this political climate, a lot of people don't talk about their political affiliation because they know it will turn people off or limit their dating pool. I've started asking this question almost immediately about how they are voting for this year as I don't want to waste my time.
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Have you ever listened to AOC talk? It’s like racism at its finest, unless you are one of those people that think that white people can’t experience racism?!
I found out because we were having a light-hearted conversation about what kind of car would be good for the suburbs, and she mentioned a Tesla. I said that I would never get a Tesla because Elon Musk is crazy for Trump. Then she said she didn’t mind. And that’s when I asked her directly. She admitted she likes Trump. But once she heard my passion she backtracked and said “both candidates are bad, I’m picking the lesser of two evils.”
(For context, we are both Hispanic and live in NYC.) I asked her about the anti-Latino jokes at the convention. She said it wasn’t a big deal, they were just jokes. I was shocked. Not at the jokes, but how she totally waved it off.
Before this, I thought she could be the one. Now I am wondering how I could’ve missed this. Or am I overthinking?
What does she think about Trump supporting Putin and enabling a genocide in Ukraine? Well… like you said. One issue at a time. Best of luck.
If you want to dump her, give her my number
James Carvile is a big democrats but has a wife who is voting for Trump
Wow! Now that is interesting
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For what it’s worth, some of my friends in the happiest of marriages have very different political views and beliefs. The issues to consider are: (1) can you still engage in respectful conversations on the topic? If one of you is going to lose respect for the other, then it may be a problem; (2) does the source of your political differences stem from an issue which will fundamentally impact the way you raise your children, i.e. morals.
I personally would rather have a partner I respectfully disagree with than someone who is civically disengaged and does not value their vote.
Wow! See that's the beauty of open and respectful communication you can turn any problem into a benefit. Talking about it to her instead of complaining about it to others deepened the connection. Thats conflict reso 101!
About the political aspect .... One thing that we've all been told is that history repeats itself and so many times we just sit there nod along like bobbleheads. nobody ever asks why we just accept it like that's the way it is and it's not. You know how I know? Define insanity.... Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results... Sit with that for a minute. Does it Sound familiar?
of course it does, Because that's what we do with our voting rights. Think about it -every election is the same song and dance if you're a Dem you want to block the Rep so you vote. If your rep you go vote because you want to block the Dem. When it comes down to picking the lesser of two evils, that's something for personal choices that will only impact you and you alone but not for something that determines the fate of our nation. The fact that someone thinks they have to pick between two evils should be the last person to vote! Why would you want even 1 evil. Neither one of them are fit.
If you Don't like either one of them why would you vote for any of them? When did we collectively stop thinking for ourselves? We want want someone thats actually for the people. We keep playing this two party Ping pong match on match expecting things to change the reps didn't do this the Dems didn't do that. Guess what? They're never going to do anything for us, that's not their agenda. And I'm not talking no conspiracy bullshit or nothing I'm being dead serious.
Let me break it down real simple we've got problems that have been hanging around longer than some of us have been alive problems that affect everyone from grandparents to grandkids one of the biggest problems is in a country with over 300 million people somehow everyone is convinced that we only have two choices? Come the older you are the more youve seen how the story plays out time and time again. we have a chance to write a different ending we have the power to break the cycle I'm not here to tell anybody who to vote for Lord knows we've all had enough of people telling us what to think. all I'm saying is there are more options out there than what we're getting shoved in our face 24/7
So if you haven't voted yet please research all the options first because change, real change, it doesn't come from following in the same old path it comes from being brave. History won't stop repeating itself until we break the cycle of insanity.
How is the sex with her?
She doesnt like you