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How do you help someone get out of depression?
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Switch to another unit, it’s a no brainer. Try to be a bit more in touch with how you feel in the space.
Definitely move. I moved to an apt that had no sunlight which made it so hard to wake up in the morning and when winter hit my depression worsened. I had to quit my job because it got so bad, looking back it was mostly because of a stupid apartment. I derailed my careers by a few years because of an apartment... it’s no joke and people still laugh at me when I tell them this.
I ended up moving into a different apartment last year that wasn’t optimal either. To wake up with light I bought those Phillip Hue smart lightbulbs. You can set a timer so that it gradually brightens at a certain time to mimic sunrise. For the winter I bought one of those light therapy devices on amazon. Not perfect but it gets the job done.
Can you move within the same building? I just had this same thing happen last month (moved into an apt without direct sunlight) and I moved within the building and like the new unit much better. The move within the building isn’t that bad if you have someone to help. My therapist also recently gave me this advice that made me see things differently too - there’s no right or wrong choice, just pros and cons to each.
Thanks! I asked about it, and I can. I looked at two other units and found noise issues with both of them (one had a yappy dog above, and the other was facing a new construction with jackhammer and such). To your point, I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that it is just pros and cons (and not going to significantly alter the course of my life). I have to keep reminding myself of that or otherwise I'll get anxious/depressed. Been on the hunt for a therapist for the past two days, but hard to find one that's in-network.
Appreciate hearing your story as it makes me feel less alone/insane.
I felt the same... try to look at the place from the perspective that made you finalize this apt. A few weeks in, you will feel better about the move . If you still hate it then look for something else
Thank you. This is helpful. I know I tend to feel a ton of anxiety after a big move/change, so I'm hoping in a few weeks, I'll start to think more rationally (i.e., this is not a doomsday situation as it feels right now).
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The impact of living space is huge. Location, too. I recently moved (unideal because of pandemic) and my entire perspective has changed. I wake up happy about my view, excited to pace around. It's wild how euphoric the space has been because I didn't make any sacrifices.
Definitely move to where you're more comfortable and happy. Take whatever losses (financial, I assume) that come up, but as long as you can survive it, then it's worth it.
You have to invest in your mental health in ways you didn't realize before. It's an annoying lesson, but don't get down on yourself! You'll know for next time.
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Any time! Always glad to share my experience/what has helped me 😊
People make decisions they regret all the time and at all ages. Signing a lease is a risk no matter what, you can never make a perfect decision. I would try to evaluate the pros and cons of staying in your place for the remainder of the lease versus the hassle of moving, make the decision that seems best at the time, execute on it and move on knowing you did the best you could.
Thanks. I appreciate the last part especially. I feel like I get really hard on myself when I think I should have known better about making a decision. It's easy to forget that I made the best decision I could with the information I had at the time, and I can only use this new experience I have now to make better decisions going forward. And also need to remind myself that I haven't made any permanent decisions that affect my life forever.