I’m scared I’ll end up being alone. I’ve truly enjoyed being single all this time but as time passes by, I keep thinking to myself that something must be wrong with me that I’m not in a relationship. I also don’t feel confident being on dating apps since I gained weight during the pandemic (about 30 lbs). I’m holding off on dating until I get into better shape but I’ll be 27 by then and I feel like I’ll be too old to put myself out there.

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27 is old????????? Erm??? Hellllo??? Our brains a just fully developed like a year ago

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I’m 33. Female. Guess I’m screwed. Or not, rather 😂

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Hi friend! If it helps, I thought i met the one, got married, and we shortly found out we had very different long term goals. 32, kind of single?, divorced. I don’t even care about the stigma honestly as all my friends are celebrating wedding anniversaries and kids. There are no timelines. Get married at 55, have kids at any age when you’re ready, change jobs on a whim, you’re golden. Just be happy! I get being lonely completely and you’ve gotta be in a good place with yourself to be good for someone else, so you’ve got this! Even if you started dating on an app, joining a kickball league, or whatever to socialize and meet someone, you’ll do great. Don’t let weight, timelines, etc. hold you back.

* mic drop and I’m rooting for you!

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I didn’t find the “one” until my mid-30s so you’re good to go in the dating scene. If anything, early to mid 20’s is a bit of a joke since hardly anyone is serious about settling down and being in a long-term relationship. Late 20’s is a fun time to be dating. Not young enough to be too naive, not old enough to have too much baggage. Also, create a life that you love living outside of a relationship. Romantic partners are just icing on the cake. The cake is the other parts of your life.

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Thank you. I’m now cautiously optimistic

I think you have at least 20-25 years to really be worried about being alone. I only seriously started dating after 27

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This feeling consumed me too and did nothing good for my mental health. I had childhood trauma to process with a therapist the last 3 years. If there is something in your past to deal with, deal with it immediately with a therapist. I feel like I’m back to normal, still single, but finally loving myself again. While I don’t feel I should look a certain way just to attract a mate, I do prefer for my body when I am athletic versus sedentary. Just start walking for now and work your way up.

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Now is when you can think straight and have maturity help you accept and build solid relationships. It’s not late at all. But life is too long to live alone and as ppl start having families , you can’t expect time from friends as you used to and hence if you do decide to stay single , develop a passion or hobby that allows you to look forward for something each day else life will feel empty .

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