I sent an email to a woman on Tuesday asking a simple yes or no question—no response. I followed up with her 2 days later—no response. I then called her at the end of the day—no answer.

I had my boss message her 5 minutes after I called and the woman responds within 15 mins.

It’s really pissing me off, and I feel like it’s racially motivated. Am I overreacting? How would y’all handle the situation?

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I know it can be easy to believe that is the default, but I think it could potentially be less about your race and more about your rank. People are racist, yes, but classism is also a strong political factor to contend with at work too. Sometimes people believe your title doesn’t warrant a response, they decide you should or could be more self sufficient instead of asking them, or simply think your ask is beneath them. I wouldn’t invest so heavily in the why, but how you’ll address the what. I would handle it the same way you did, reaching out and escalating as needed. Let her become the obvious problem and your decorum and professionalism will stand on its own. You definitely don’t want to give anyone the sense you’re the angry black woman at work, warranted or not. As soon as you are assigned that brand it’s hard undo it.

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Everything here. I had to get to SENIOR manager and even still, I experience some internal BS. Try to not let it affect you as much and let your work speak for itself. If things fall by the wayside because people don't respond to you let it. The blame will always go back to that higher up or external partner and you always have proof you tried 💁🏾‍♂️

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