I am 31, F and many strangers mistaken me for 18-25 years old, even with a mask on. Is that...... a con? Serious q.

Def hate the ageism about it when interviewing. I dress in athleisure wear most of the time outside. Do I need to dress more adult then? I know I don't NEED or SHOULD and can do whatever I want, but there's something about it that makes me feel uncomfortable/I'm doing something wrong to give them the "wrong" idea that I'm younger than 30s. Like I'm lying or smthg.

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Some people just come off younger than they are, it’s fine! I’m 10 years older than you and still get mistaken for 5-10 years younger. The only time it bothers me is when my authority or experience isn’t respected because of my perceived age.

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Yeah, that’ll improve a little as you get older. It might help to work on projecting more confidence in your tone and how you carry yourself. But otherwise, you can’t control what people think. It’s their problem, not yours!

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I’ve had that problem forever…but just turned 40 and now it’s AWESOME!! Wait it out, I guess?

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RIP at your DMs

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Lol will def be ignoring but I doubt any will be coming through. Happily in a long term relationship.

(But srs q tho, not even tryna brag or anything. I mean does anyone feel wrong about it too if they're mistaken to be younger? Or I'm overthinking lol)

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Ma’am what is your problem?
You have no problem …. When interviewing aren’t they looking at your resume?
You are lucky, when you are in your 50s you’ll hopefully maintain a youthful look and look like you are in your late 30s. Stop overthinking it.

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Thanks y'all 💜

Yeah I have the same problem. I’m 34 and am constantly told people thought I was 23-25. So wear blue light glasses, darker colors and more formal clothing. Plus your demeanor in how you engage with people - be humble but confident and know your ish and other peoples ish and you’ll be taken seriously

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People would love to have your problem!

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☝️☝️ that 2nd bottom half!

This happens to me… and I’ve surveyed friends who agree it’s the long hair and athleisure. Neither are things I’m willing to change 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Be careful what you wish for. Enjoy it while it lasts and embrace it. There's gonna be a time when you wish you look younger trust me

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I’m 33 and like you… it really is what it is 😂

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My sister is 23. She went shopping and the girl at the register said "uhm.... I don't know if you're old enough for a credit card. But if you are, would you be interested?"

Be happy with your youth.

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uve been blessed, OP! enjoy it 🥳

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I’m 44. Looks like 35. I love compliments 🙂

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Same problem. I’m dating someone younger to cope 😂

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No, not a con. You’re fine. Keep being yourself. Don’t worry about what others think.

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Same. 31. They think I’m 21. I take it as a compliment though.

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Same as a 30 something man

I'm pretty happy with my fate 😊

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When you get older it helps, when interviewing it confusion all around lol. I’m almost out of my 30’s and get mistaken for late 20’s.

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Oh interesting lol I I certainly didnt even believe that I was beginning my 30s last year (I'd love to stay 28 forever)

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