So I have family situation I've been dealing with and yesterday at a company function outside the office, my supervisor brought it up in front of a bunch of people. First of all highly inappropriate, but also it's nobody's business. She's made comments before outside of work about how her boss is gay, blah blah blah. I'm just at a loss. Should I report it to HR? And if I do, how do I do it without it being known that it came from me??

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If the supervisor brought it up in front of a bunch of other people, any of them could have reported it to HR.

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Time to get the resume ready and bring up the unprofessional behavior

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Please please do not share personal stuff to managers. It may seem harmless but when things like this happen, it is not easy to cope. If I were you, I will start looking out and express your feelings to your manager so she wouldn't do it again. If you report, not sure how long it takes for HR to investigate and take action if at all they do.. I would focus more on looking out if it makes sense for you. Good luck!

That's kind of impossible when it effects your ability to be at work. Most of us need to explain to our managers what's going on when we are unexpectedly unable to work.

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