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Guys, my friend had her last working day last week and she thinks she forgot to fill her timesheet for her last 2 days before handing over the laptop. What can be the consequences of this? She is really worried about this
P.S she belongs to a back end team serving the firm internally charging time on only one code.
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Trust me being single is much better than being with the wrong partner.
Enjoy your single life while actively keeping your eyes open for opportunities.
Everyone has different pace in life so really no need to compare against others, there's no married late or married early, as long as you are happy thats all it matters!
Well said!!! I’d rather be alone than wish I was alone.
Yes! Was single AF all my 20s and early 30s. Very lonely there for awhile. Did all the apps and nothing. Met my now fiancé during pandemic networking for work (really!) at age of 33. It came out of no where and I am so happy. We get married later this year and plan to get pregnant right away.
Focus on your career, yourself, and friends and family for now. Do the apps if you want or don’t if you don’t like them. Trust the universe.
This is encouraging! The apps overwhelm me and people are creepy. Glad you found your happy!
My parents met through friends when they were 35. Had me at 40, my brother surprisingly at 45 and they’re still together after 32 years :) And they have probably the best relationship out of all their friends, some of whom married young and got divorced
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Awww wow good for them
You are not alone. I was 32 when I met my now spouse by chance. Honestly had gotten accustomed to the thought of not marrying and having children. As many before said. Don't give up. You have time still.
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Thank you
Met my now husband at 36, got married at 39, I’m turning 40 this year. He has two kids, I have the dog, and it’s been a good “merge”, we plan on no further kids and now looking into our next phase of life (early retirement!). We met through a mutual friend, didn’t expect it and happy it happened when it did (earlier in life wouldn’t have worked for either of us!)
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Very cool
Thank you for sharing that
On the same boat, 35 female
Wham bam right before turning 31. Now married and 5 months pregnant (now 33 and will turn 34 right before baby is born). Met someone new, we clicked and that was it.
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Nope. I have now reached 41. Never marrying is pretty peaceful but I’ll admit I am disappointed having a life partner isn’t in the cards for my life. I’ve reconciled myself to it by now though.
Definitely still plenty of time on life partner - and if you want kids, adoption is always an option! But also no reason you can’t be happy with how things are - and sounds like you are! As a single 33 y/o who is happier with my dog than my last ex, certainly feel like it’s better this way than the alternative.. plus, bought a house last year and just genuinely thrilled with being able to meet my personal life goals on my own - hope you are too!
Same boat. About to turn 28 and getting questions of when I’m going to get “settled” or serious about having a marriage/family. Sucks the dudes don’t get this question much. I just bought my first property and am getting settled into my career so I feel like 2/3 for right now is good enough even tho it does get lonely. I’m just telling myself to be more interested in meeting new people and everyone is always open to making more friends so it’s less pressure
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It does suck they can be 40 have a healthy kid
It’s a real gamble of women at 40 having kids
Idk :) time will tell
I’ll just keep enjoying life haha
Same boat 33. ☠️
I met my husband online a few months before turning 30. We got married at 34, had our first baby just before 36, and we're now expecting our second (and final) baby just before 38. All of this is later in life than I expected, but it's how it worked out. The upside is we both got to enjoy lots of international travel in our 20s and build up our careers so we're good financially. My advice is make sure you're making an effort to find that special someone, whether it be asking friends/family, meeting people at whatever hobby interests you, or actively participating in a dating app. But don't settle or rush just because you feel like you're running out of time.
Not a story but I'm in a similar boat and something that's really helped me is just imagining a good life for myself without a husband and/or kids (and not getting hung up on there being one way to do life) so I am excited about my future either way it goes. Like, being in my 30s single with a lot of money to spend on myself and on traveling? Sounds awesome. Getting married and having kids? Also sounds awesome. Fine either way
Married at 20yo. Happy marriage until one day, at 35 he decides to change genders. Then I spent three years trying to date online - ironically most men at that age want to meet you - a single lady, not a divorcee with two little kids :) :) took forever, maybe met one creep of dozens of online dates, the rest were just nice guys but no sparks. and finally found someone just absolutely lovely, a bit older and looking for a serious commitment which at that point was a priority to me. But I almost gave up and thought I would be single till the rest of my life and began to feel happy with just me myself and I lol. Anyway, the point, you need to do both: enjoy the present chapter because you never know how long it will last (I wish I enjoyed my alone days more often in retrospect) but also keep trying like I did. Not saying you are not trying, just highlighting that bars, networking, online are all good. Go for apps that draw more serious people or have a paywall. Heck, I even paid old fashioned matchmakers!!! God luck, you sound like a great person :)
Met my husband at 37, engaged at 38 and married at 39. First kid at 40. Immediately started trying for baby #2. Had a few losses but than had second baby at 44. Married almost 14 years. My advice — you have to put yourself out there!! Nobody is knocking on your door. I met my husband online. Nobody likes online dating, myself included. But dating is a numbers game and you increase the number of men you’re meeting by going online. You can still meet men at the gym or at a bar, but not in the same volume as online. Still do all those things! But be open to other things too.
Also, don’t waste time with the wrong men! I’m not saying go on dates and interview every guy as a potential husband. But don’t spend a year with someone you don’t see as husband material. And don’t dismiss red flags because you “really like him”. Take it from me— I spent too much time with the wrong men (including one whom I was engaged to) — and the years go by quickly.
And throw your “plan” out the window. I wanted to be married by 27 and have my first baby by 30. And I was almost on target with my first fiancé. But thank God I called off the engagement. He wasn’t the right one for me.
All I know is that I wanted to be a wife and mom. I felt like it was the one thing in my life that I couldn’t control — I can’t make someone like me!! — and that was so frustrating and made me sad at times. But I could control the effort I put into it and I treated it like a second job. And eventually, it paid off.
Thanks OP for posting this. The replies here are encouraging no matter what happens. 32, never dated/“late bloomer”.
I met my husband when I was 23, got married a year later, and now have 3 kids and turning 30 this year. I realize I’m settled in fairly early, but it still did come out of the blue. I was single with no prospects. Decided to try something new and started CrossFit. Met him at the gym. We clicked and the rest is history. Just get yourself out there and you will meet someone!
Yep. That was me so I married my best friend! 10 years later plus 2 kids I’m super happy I matured enough to let go of the fantasy man I chased but did not actually exist.
At a bar.
35.
Married by 38.
He was 40, never been married or has any kids, he’s 43 now.
I know it’s a cliche, but it literally happens when you least expect it.
Don't give up! Personally know someone who got married at 42 and had a miracle baby at 43/44. I hope it happens for you much sooner, but stay positive and good luck on your search to find your mate!
Met my (now) husband right after I turned 30. Married at 33, kids at 35 and 38.
We met on Match.com. Definitely out of my comfort zone to do Match but wasn’t meeting/connecting with anyone other ways.