In a chitchat, I told my boss I was going to Florida. He asked “with friends”? I panicked for a second and just said “yes” but I’m actually going with my boyfriend. There are a few colleagues who know I’m gay but I still feel a bit weird talking about my sexuality and dating with colleagues I’m not super close to. Are you guys out at work and do you talk about your personal life the same way as if you were straight?

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Share as much or as little as you are comfortable sharing. Everyone is different and everyone’s colleague population is different.

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Live loud and proud my friend

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I’m finding it best anymore to reveal as little of my personal life as possible. About anything.

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I have been fully out at all of the jobs I’ve had and wouldn’t have had it any other way.

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Yes out at work and yes talk about my life as though I were straight. I'm the only gay at work in my day to day.

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Same here

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I'm 100% out at work, to bosses, peers and reports. Not having to panic, lie about or hide my activities or husband is a weight off my shoulders.

I also live in the San Francisco Bay area. If you live in the middle of nowhere, or a less tolerant country, maybe things are different for you, but if you're in a major US city, things should be ok. I was out in other cities too, and to some consulting clients and it was fine.

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I’m out at work, especially with my local office. My boyfriend comes up occasionally, especially with people who have met him. I also work a lot with people outside of my office and I have avoided bringing up my boyfriend with some of those people and idk why.

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I’m more open at work than anywhere else outside of my boyfriend and a small group of gay friends.

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Gays have title vii protection now in the workplace, just be honest. I’m sure everyone knows anyway.

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Yeah, policy is one thing but day to day practical interactions and not being treated as different or stigmatized is another thing.

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Unless you’re in a Mississippi EY office I don’t see a reason to hide. And even if you were, EY is good about diversity and inclusion.

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Same Accenture, and passing for straight helps me keep everybody guessing! It is a fun game.

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Most of my leadership is female and is pro-LGBT/inclusive, I have to work at hiding myself less from them. But I have to be conscious about over sharing anything with them. When my leadership has had more men including a direct report, I feel less comfortable, has anyone else experienced this?

My team is like 90% men and I feel you

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