In my first seemingly healthy relationship (1 month in) after getting out of a very toxic relationship with a narcissist. I’m worried I’m going to sabotage a good thing because of my past.. has anyone navigated a healthy relationship after being with a narcissist?

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Yes, I sloweddddd down. Did trauma therapy. Read a LOT about red flags, boundaries, etc. married with a kid now.

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Yes. Take a step back and just enjoy each day. I dated 2 in a row before I knew what the term was, and both for about 6 months each, so I wasn’t super deep in

If you’re not working with a therapist, you definitely should be. And if it’s been less than 6 months since you broke up, you should not be dating. I waited over a year and saw a therapist 2x/week, while also realizing where my proclivities for narcissists came from

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Take a break from relationships and work on yourself. It’s an inside job

If it’s a good thing….its a good thing don’t throw it away because of your past. You can work on yourself and enjoy this at the same time

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