How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

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Could you explain how you feel in more detail?

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“Outgrown someone” sounds cocky. Please explain further.

Some details on how you feel will help.

Usually after a couple of years relationships get caught in the routine, lack excitement and you are unclear if this is what you want long term. You start comparing it to the excitement you see in other peoples relationship (friends and social media) and find yourself short. In some cases you value space, want to do things by yourself and your friends.

It’s all natural… but discuss the details with each other on what bothers you first.

So you’re basically bored and looking for something else. Let him know how you feel. We’re you guys friends before this? A bit more detail is needed.

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