When to break-up with someone? I’ve been dating my gf for 6 years (2 long distance 1yr on a break and 3 living together. Nothing terrible about the relationship but I’m not happy and no longer feel in love. I’ve tried working it out but haven’t felt the relationship has gotten any better. I feel at this point the best thing to do for both of us is split (she shouldn’t be with someone that can’t love her fully). So here’s the options continued…

it’s been 3 years in this city and I really need to hang out with someone other than my boyfriend. But I’m terrible at “networking"

What to do when parents dig their toes into your relationship? They don't approve of who I'm with and very vocal about it.

In 10 years, this may be in the rear view or they may not let up. Anyone with experience in this?

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

Married fish, when did you meet your spouse? Pre-career, when you were first starting out or when you were a bit more establish (at least a few years in)?

I have been married for 3 years. We have been trying to have a baby and found out my husband is shooting blanks and requires surgery to possibly resolve that. Recovery is 4 weeks and he refused. He is also not open to adopting or fostering or using someone else’s sperm. What do I do now?

How many of us have a teacher buddy that we hang out with, after school hours??

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

If at all, how do you guys manage romantic relationships in IB? It’s easier if your s/o is in the industry bc they have an innate understanding someone outside wouldn’t but I don’t think that means you have to find someone in the industry. Curious to hear some thoughts.

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

Last night I slept over my boyfriend’s apt. We are sexually active together but this time he woke up at 4/5am and started fingering me and eating me out. I was somewhat awake but I don’t know how to feel about this. Thoughts?

Dropping my 10 yo son off at school this morning: Me: "I love you! Have a great day! Learn a lot of really cool stuff! Him: "Okay, whatever.

Does anyone have experience or know of someone who went on a FWA (part-time) but didn't have kids? I'm unmarried and no kids but considering a move to 30 or so hrs/week for my sanity.

I need friends. Feel lonely when everyone else is partying up.

Any tips on helping my remote bond/feel more connected with each other?

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

What’s it like being an EA at Epic Games? Any info would be greatly appreciated :)

How's the work culture in TCS Kolkata office like? What kind of hikes do good performers get there and how often does an employee get promoted in general?

What do you do when you feel the goalpost has been/is being moved re: billable requirements? Like there's a spoken vs unspoken? I chose this job based on billables vs salary and what I'm being told I'm expected to do now is 20-30% (at least) > than what was initially agreed upon. Given my other life responsibilities, this is creating a huge strain & I feel like this is slowly getting harder & harder on my spouse & kids. I'm grateful to have lots of good work but not sure how to course correct.

So what do you guys do at happy hours to make them more interesting? What do you drink? I find them boring because it’s not networking with new people and I’m sick of water or sprite.

Does ibm give any Diwali gifts?

Base salary for trade finance associate @ United bank of africa

Who believes the whole 300 hours of study rule of thumb?

Almost a week with On-site interview and it’s been a radio silence from my recruiter. Should I reach back to them or is it normal? Not at all impatient, just trying to know what’s the norm.

I am a regional controller for a hospitality group. I began looking for a job in a different industry, but have hit some roadblocks with trying to communicate transferable skills and management style (decentralized). Any recommendations?

Which industry/role is currently and will be more in demand in future years?

Product manager in Marketing or Product Manager in Finance (finance would be a more tech related role)?

Thanks!!

Happy Monday fishes!! What are the best job posting sites in your opinion and which ones have a higher success rate?

Hi fishbowl fam, I work as a customer service advisor but I just started a masters program in data science (career change) is it possible for me to get a job in this field to broaden my knowledge while still learning? If yes, what title of jobs should I be looking for and does anyone have any idea of organisations I should target?

A guy who is claiming to be in love with me (a black woman and immigrant), is a conservative (pro-trump, anti-gun laws, denies that there is racism etc). Are those red flags to make me cut him off?

Are the DEI efforts at your jobs working? What are some successes? What are some failures?

I have an offer for $130k for a senior attorney position in a boutique L&E firm. Also have a recruiter who thinks she can get me into another for $150-170k. Both are more than I’ve ever made (Denver, 17 yrs of experience but completely different practice areas). Any tips for countering the $130k offer for more using the other potential offer while not risking a complete withdrawal of the current offer? I’ve never been in a position to bargain my starting salary so this is all very new to me.

Chicago 🐟here in the process of moving to LA.

Holy cow how do you guys live? Everywhere is so expensive but there are so many homes on the market.

Do you guys plan on living in LA for the long term? Any tips on navigating the neighborhoods and where I good starter location would be?


(For reference, new jobs office would be in Santa Monica)

Woman I went on one date with keeps me informed on what she's doing. I.e. Seeing her girlfriend or on her way to a birthday party. Not used to this level of transparency after just one date. We do have a second date planned. Thoughts?

Is giving birth w/o the epidural really that crazy of a concept? People laugh at me when I say its very feasible...

Fiancé’s milestone birthday coming up. We both love experiences and enjoy the city. Welcome all the help to make it special for her!

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

Have you ever snoop through your partner’s phone without them knowing? If so, did you find anything shocking?!

Haven’t done the dating thing in a while so need advice! (F here) Met a guy at a party on Sat, followed each other on insta, then I dm’ed him my number saying “lmk if you want to get drinks sometime”. He then texts me and says something along the lines of “yeah let’s do it” but doesn’t offer any concrete plan. Does this mean he’s not super into it? Or am I overreacting and I should initiate the plan? I initiated the insta follow and the dm so I feel like it’s his turn…?

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

why do i struggle when my s/o isn’t texting me? ik they’re not cheating on me, ik they still love me, all that jazz.

but for some reason i’m not at peace when they take some time to themselves.

any tips or advice?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

Asker outers- make reservations. I’m tired of going to dinner or drinks and finding out my date’s plan is winging it and the place doesn’t have space. Make a reservation!! It takes one min!!

Does anyone ever feel any insecurity about how they compare to their partner? Eg partner is smarter, hotter, more outgoing, etc

When did you know you were falling out of love with your partner? Did you fix it, or break things off and why?

In search of stories to hopefully understand a phase in my own long term relationship.

So much baggage brought into the relationship. 2 years in and just discovered a whole lot more. Its been mentally extremely difficult and it’s changed me as a person. Just venting but feel hopeless and I know my SO is suffering. Wish there was a solution but I’m losing hope

Hi all,

There is guy living near my place and i find him really attractive. And sometimes I come across him in the gym. But I'm not sure if he likes me or not. How to handle this situation?
Any suggestions?

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic