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I will probably be the outlier here but my advice is to enjoy those moment while you can. Before long they will be “too big” to snuggle with dad.
I have 4 kids and we didn’t do “cry it out” method with any of them. We snuggled each one until they were ready to sleep. You know what? They are all independent, hard-headed, self assured kids who have no issues navigating this world. I only say that because someone will inevitably say something about it spoiling the kids.
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But to directly answer the first part, normal isn’t the word here - rather it’s not required for a 11 month old to fall asleep. They can fall asleep on their own from a physiological standpoint. However, i don’t disagree with the other comments, that if you enjoy it, you won’t have that phase in their lives forever so enjoy it. If you feel it interferes with other things and winds up interfering with quality sleep then I’d consider making a change
It is a sleep problem if it negatively affects you. Family bed? Your choice and option. Cry it out? Your choice and option. Snuggle until you both fall asleep on each other? Your choice. Note that 1 and 3 are hard to undo- so if you are hoping for some regular sexy time, factor that in. A friend of mine seems to have had no process and I think his young kids are up and wandering the house at midnight on a regular basis. You do need to make a a choice and stick with it- whatever route you go. I snuggle with the little one (5) until he is asleep. I find it’s Good for my heart and soul. Sometimes we wake up together. Just feels like good bonding. Not as great for bonding with spouse.
They do this because these are the conditions they have learned to require to fall asleep. This book, the gold standard, will fix this in two weeks. If you enjoy it keep doing it but it is completely unnecessary.
Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems: New, Revised, and Expanded Edition https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0743201639/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_a5wsFbDQF074W
Yes, enjoy it they will grow up and will sleep without your rocking!!
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You won’t like the answer...but a modified cry it out gets the job done. Will take like 3-5 nights but the kid will get with the program. Keep your usual routine and then put kid in the crib, say goodnight. Screaming will ensue. Go in after 2 min (if needed) and rub back briefly, say it’s ok, you’re there etc., but do not pick kiddo up. Then wait another 2 min before going in again, then 4 min, then 8. I never got to 10 min, kid would always fall asleep. Remember, they’ll love you just as much in the morning :)
I dunno man.. I don't want to be judgemental lol