Is it unfair to be annoyed that when a co worker always asks me to schedule meeting for him (he doesn’t have Webex I guess) and sends pings in succession about issues directly happening to him...but when I ask one thing of him, he doesn’t respond even after following up twice. Feels a little unfair I go out of my way a lot to assist but seems like it’s not the other way around.

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That's a very reasonable emotion to feel. Stop being so nice to them. Reciprocate in kind.

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Doesn’t have webex?? ....

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Repeat after me - sorry we can’t use my Webex for your call. Please set up your Webex.

Repeat.

Repeat.

Repeat.

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Unless you’re his EA, have him set up his own meetings!!!
Also, whether this person is senior to you or not, they sound obnoxious. Try to work on setting acceptable boundaries (it’s good practice for your entire career).

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Stop bending over backwards for him. If he asks you to set up a meeting, say youre in the middle of something but can do it when youre free. Stop replying to him so fast and thoroughly that hes dependent on you. It sounds like your job duties are separate so keep it that way and assist every once in while, not all the time.

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Delayed response is a great tactic

Oh you’re talking about me, aren’t you?

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Sounds more like a SO than a co-worker. Why are you bringing your household issues here?

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Are these meetings you are also attending? Are they your manager/team lead?

Are you the same level?

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