I've been approached by a fairly new, young employee who is a woman and reminds me a bit of myself when I was her age. Which was a little too bold, if I'm being honest. She would like me to be her mentor, and I am thinking it might be one of those things where I initially want to resist but would actually benefit from. But what are some parameters I should set to make sure it's manageable?

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My gut reaction is to go back to her and ask her what it is about you she particularly relates to and what mentorship means to her/what it looks like. Ask her to set a follow up at her convenience. This would be helpful insight and also be a bit of a teaching moment in itself-and further qualify her interest and commitment.

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Build the relationship first, gain her trust and then be honest.

If you are honest too quickly she will just become resentful and won’t grow.

You’ll have to be patient and realize she’s going to fuck up and might not always listen but she has to learn her own lessons.

If that sounds like something you can (and want to do), go for it!

I love my mentor. I don’t like her all the time but I do respect her opinion and advice a lot.

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It may be bold, but keep in mind that it was probably not easy for her to approach you. Take it as a compliment! As far as the mentorship relationship, that can be whatever you define it to be. Go with what feels comfortable, even if that's just meeting for coffee every few weeks at first. Feel things out and see how it goes.

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Well, if she reminds you of yourself when you were younger, you have the inside track on this. What are some parameters that would have kept such a dynamic manageable when you were young?

I think to a young person, being a “mentor” likely just means getting together for lunch or coffee every so often and chat about her career track. Not sure how well you know her already, but she probably sees a woman in a leadership position, and figures you have some wisdom and advice to pass along (which I’m sure you do). I’d have a casual lunch with her and get to know more about her goals.

Say “yes,” but be careful of advising her that she is too bold. The world has shifted since we started our careers and I find the confidence of these young women really inspiring. I have mentored many people in my career and it’s something I really enjoy. It’s it really a big commitment, usually once a quarter or every other month. Keep it relaxed and casual. Also, you might learn some things from her. I use my young mentees to get perspective and better understand how they see the world.

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I would start by asking her what she wants/expects out of the mentorship with you before you decide. She must see herself in you, or who she wants to be, if she's asking.

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