I’ve been realizing I’m too nice and lax. I need to start being evil to people (that deserve it of course).

Sometimes I sit and think about recent times people have tried me or did/said something messed up to me and I decided to be the bigger person. But I’m realizing that gets you no where

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Yes, balance is beneficial. You can be nice overall but possessing some edge, assertion, and force helps you survive by making you more adaptable. The "always" nice coworkers I've had in my life usually end up getting walked over like a charity doormat while suffering on the inside. You want niceness that comes from a position of strength, flexibility, and choice. Now you don't have to go extreme and do "evil" to train this, but you can start by standing your ground, stating your mind, saying no, calling mofos or their bs, or even physically train it as well (which will affect your mental).

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It gets you everywhere IMO.

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Or just stop associating with people more than you have to who are assholes. Equally easy to do.

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Just don't overdo it, that'll backfire hard and fast

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