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What should be the designation for 6.8 yrs experience as lateral hire at HCL? HR and promised to give Senior Tech Lead but on offer letter it is just Tech Lead. When asked now they are stating like finance payroll team are saying that Senior Tech Lead can be offered only for 7.5 yrs experience. HCL Technologies
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I see tons of red flags here (my creds: I'm middle-aged, been married twice (very happily now), seen it all at this point) -- his weight comment is problematic (leaves the door open for him to decide at some point that your curves are in the WRONG places), doesn't want to talk on the phone because he's shy, has told you in depth about his struggles and troubles after only 1 week (a great way to reel someone caring in and potentially scam them). As a mom and a fellow woman, do not meet him in person until you speak on the phone and also have a video call -- and PLEASE, PLEASE, bring someone with you if you meet him in person, even if they just stay in the car while you meet in a public place. Be safe above all else. This is going way too fast, and it way too easy to lie/concoct stories to reel someone in by text.
I agree with you, too many red flags. If you meet him in person, have someone there with you that he doesn't suspect is with you, maybe arriving earlier to where you are to meet. If he keeps coming up with reasons as to not being able to meet you, he is fake.
I spent 41 yrs in a valley inhabited by demons before getting saved, during that period I ran from God, tried to hide from God, bargained with God, fought God, and most of the time I was angry with God. Nobody is born perfect, we all make mistakes, we all sin and we all have our reasons for that. My best advice to you would be to take it to God rather than ask for advice from strangers who have know real intimate knowledge of the situation. Quiet the noise and Pray, pray, pray and when you think God gave you the answer pray some more. If you do that with an open and honest heart God will reveal His answer to you. God has taught me enough times that He prefers us to always talk to Him before relying on the advice of others.
Not exactly sure what this has to do with getting a job or researching jobs on Glassdoor???
Ask him how often he goes to church. Also, questions are great, people lie, sooner or later you have to meet in public or at church to see if he's legit.
Also...where's the ContD part????
I think the biggest questions aren’t always about his past they’re about his character. Ask him how he handles conflict, what accountability looks like to him, how he treats people when he’s angry, what role God actually plays in his daily decisions, and what he believes a husband’s responsibilities are. Anyone can say they’re faith-centered. Time, consistency, and their fruit will show you who they really are. Don’t interview him so much that you forget to observe him.
I quit with that whole religion for a very reason everybody in there is a bunch of hypocrites. I have yet to see one person in America, who is of Jesus is teaching and really followed his rules. My advice is to stay away from them they all hypocrites and then on their way to the fire gates just like the rest of us even if they say they’re not, they are. The last true Christians were of biblical times in Jesus himself there is no more true Christians.
Ask him if he'd still love you if you two didn't share the same faith?
What is his expectation of you, in your current relationship configuration?
What are his top 7 priorities?
What are his intentions with you?
Ask him if you should trust him? if so Why? if not why?
And then run. A "christian" guy on a dating app sounds like the cold open of either a lifetime movie in honor of domestic violence month or Law & Order: SVU. and stop coming to the internet, we just as problematic as your saved, sanctified, serial killer. But in all seriousness, Holy ghost him. Get Out. I might not be able to tell you specifically how this man will ruin your life/waste your time/be the bane of your detriment, but TRUST, in time he will be at least 1/3 of the unpleasantries I just listed.
Ever thought about owning a cat? or a goldfish? I would say dog, but that would only rewind us back to square 1. Hope this helps.
What makes someone a Christian please?
I probably wouldn't ask every single question that I can think of if it's not a job interview. There's really only one question to ask if you want to date someone. Try actually going out and having fun, doing real activities to learn the real person.
Online dating is either a luck or a bad luck. I met my husband on a dating site, and he proposed after two weeks of knowing each other. I was thinking if he is sincere or not so I put him into a test and I ask him to come and meet my family. He flew from his place to my place and sure he did meet my family and we dated after that and after two years we got married and happy until now. We treat everyday like we just got married. Thank God for everything,
Best of luck! You will know over time if your guy is a true Christian and a good man. Asking questions is great, taking the TIME to get to know someone (and that means at least a year) makes more a difference. You have to see the good, bad and everything in between over time! Sometimes after 3 years you still have surprises, trust me!
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I can answer that one. Because talk Christian and walking Christian are two very different things. The Bible is very clear on both, and equally clear on biblically congruent sexual Conduct. Kids outside of a biblically grounded marriage suggest incongruence there. It would be perfectly reasonable for someone who is seeking to live a biblically harmonious life to pursue greater clarity there.