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Wait - he's a Christian, never been married, but has two kids. Is it me, or is something off here? Are the two kids with the same woman that he didn't marry? Was she a Christian too? Also, what are your ages?
Just FYI info from experience, most of these people are romance scammers or artificial intelligence trying to jack up expenses on a dating site. If a romance scammer from Facebook or something tell-tale signs are wanting to move to another site, like Whatsapp and Telegram. It is easy to fall into that trap, so be careful.
I see tons of red flags here (my creds: I'm middle-aged, been married twice (very happily now), seen it all at this point) -- his weight comment is problematic (leaves the door open for him to decide at some point that your curves are in the WRONG places), doesn't want to talk on the phone because he's shy, has told you in depth about his struggles and troubles after only 1 week (a great way to reel someone caring in and potentially scam them). As a mom and a fellow woman, do not meet him in person until you speak on the phone and also have a video call -- and PLEASE, PLEASE, bring someone with you if you meet him in person, even if they just stay in the car while you meet in a public place. Be safe above all else. This is going way too fast, and it way too easy to lie/concoct stories to reel someone in by text.
I agree with you, too many red flags. If you meet him in person, have someone there with you that he doesn't suspect is with you, maybe arriving earlier to where you are to meet. If he keeps coming up with reasons as to not being able to meet you, he is fake.
RUN! As far and as fast as you can. He's a Nigerian prince
After reading enough of your posts, I'd say just run from this guy.
Iam sorry, did I miss something? Glassdoor I thought was for topics related to employment
I will keep it short and sweet! Anyone can answer questions the right way. You can stand in a garage all day but that doesn't make you a car. Jesus said you will know them by their fruit. Holy Spirit is not a LIAR, HE will lead and guide you into all TRUTH! Seek GOD FIRST! So much deception in the world. I TRUST GOD, everything and everyone else is SUSPECT until GOD proves otherwise. Haste and desperation will make you miss ALL the red flags.
So many ppl judging the man without actually conversing with him. Before ppl try bashing his Faith maybe they should look in a mirror.
Matthew 7:3-5
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s
I have been on the dating apps and I had a man also did not want to talk on the phone then I told him finally after 2 weeks if you don't call me I will not text you anymore then comes to find out I recognized his voice from Nigeria Africa because I have a coworker with the exact same voice our Janitor then he finally confessed he was not American after I told him he was lying to me then I called off everything for starting off lying to me about his description no blue eyes and no blond hair like he put on his description with a fake profile picture
Did you ask God?
Beware the "Christians" on the dating apps! LOL!
Also you said he wrote a book over a weekend and you bought it???? What pray tell does that say in it????
Something seems off and he sounds like a scammer. Check out the YouTubers Trilogy Media.
Be prepared to discover new things. good or bad. Accepting new people into our lives is scary and can be exciting at the same time. Be wary and don't for traps that see harmless at first
Dating advice being sought from Glassdoor. Really.
why do you need others to ask the questions for you? if you like him and he likes you, that's enough
barf. just go with the flow and stop worrying about what questions to ask.
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Well the guy just told me "i do need to tell you something. I don't want to lead you on or anything and be unintentional towards you. I just dont feel an attraction and hope you can understand. If you'd still like to chat about the Lord Jesus then im all ears and you have my number--if not then I understand." I guess I'm just super confused because he liked some of the pics I texted to him and said I was "fine" and sent hearteye emojis to some of my pics I sent him. I'm so lost right now. Like if he wasnt attracted, then why like my pics and say I was fine??
So what the heck was the point in him saying that "not to jump to conclusions, but I think we would have really cute kids" if he wasn't really attracted to me then?? Also, I kind of feel bad because he said he would be open to talking about Jesus with me and being friends, but I will understand if you don't want to."
I do recall him saying how he doesnt have any friends because he talks about Jesus alot. But if he was intending on just trying to be a friend with me, then why didn't he just say he was "just looking for friends?" I never get rejected like this.
This one kind of hurt because we talked everyday for a week and thought we were close to meeting up with each other. Also, I even bought his Bible study book he wrote to support him. Should I send it back? Now im just wondering how im going to recover from this one. I feel even more vulnerable getting back online to date now and putting myself out there.
Just remember that one's religious views have nothing to do with their integrity.
Hope things go well for you!
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I guess I'm just slightly anxious/worried about whether or not he's going to accept me or reject me when I meet him in person (IF I do). I have 1 full body pic up and that's it lol. I have sent him other pics, but not full body ones.
I have thick, curvy hips and thighs, DD boobs, and a big butt lol. I don't know if that matches what he wants. I didn't mention the DD boobs to him because I don't want to be too vulgar and cause him to experience feelings of lust.
I guess I'm just slightly anxious/worried about whether or not he's going to accept me or reject me when I meet him in person (IF I do). I have 1 full body pic up and that's it lol. I have sent him other pics, but not full body ones.
I have thick, curvy hips and thighs, DD boobs, and a big butt lol. I don't know if that matches what he wants. I didn't mention the DD boobs to him because I don't want to be too vulgar and cause him to experience feelings of lust.
Well I doubt he's asking himself that because I have told him many times that Im very attracted to him. LOL
Oh girl please. Even Christian men have feelings of lust! Can't stop 'em. Haahah! My mama always told me "Even nice guys like sex!"
1.5 hrs apart is a long way.
I wouldn’t worry about his comment on body size- he just means he doesn’t mind when women are thicker but doesn’t want someone obese. Getting pregnant later =/= obese, unless you let go of your diet and exercise.
Because he has kids- it would likely make the most sense for you to eventually move to be much closer to him, after you have dated for a long time.
I would recommend meeting up with him, make it half way between you all. And then after that- have some FaceTime dates to see how the conversation goes.
Unless things feel amazing & instantly click- I would be hesitant to start a new relationship that’s basically long distance. Long distance skews your perception and you can’t see the true day-to-day side of people. I know from experience.
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@Amazon-wow EVERY WEEKEND??? I don't think that's going to work in this situation because he has his son every other weekend.
Trust but verify. Been married since 1986. You can't build a 50 yr relationship on sawdust. Be open and honest. That allows the relationship to mutually flow in the right direction. The important thing is that you're perpetually on the same page on the things that matter. Kids, material things, putting each other first, staying committed to the relationship above all else is number one. Ask the probing questions on how dedicated he will be to the relationship until the end. If you feel he's the one go for it. Trying in what makes the world go round.
I think it never hurts to meet someone. But it feels like you might be putting too much importance on this meeting.
Also are you asking what else you should ask him? I think you should meet him instead of compiling more questions. But meet him with the idea of finding out if you get along, not meeting to find out of you should get married.
Me personally: I believe people tend to remain as they are. So I think if he's accepted having kids with another person (or two other people) and not gotten married, then he will be perfectly happy being involved with you and not getting married. He seems like he doesn't prioritize marriage. That's my takeaway.
not everyone’s walk with Christ is linear. he could’ve been a convert. and even still— we are imperfect beings do not judge.
Correct. But how would she know if she doesn’t ask?
He may just rock your world. Give him a chance and see where it goes. A hard man is good find!!!