FML. I’ve been dating someone for 8 months and have been having doubts about the longevity of the relationship. This week he tells me he is thinking about leaving our city and working remotely. Even though I was already thinking about ending it, this hurts. I know I’m being childish - being rejected by someone who I was planning to reject! And I know he isn’t the right guy for me in the long term. So why does this hurt?! 😭😭😭

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It hurts your ego, get over it! It’s a blessing it’s that much easier to end things

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When you are intimately involved with someone, it's natural to want things a certain way. The need to control leads to tension, which leads to dissatisfaction, and eventually disappointment. The attachment you form causes friction in the relationship, tends to bring out the unhealed part of you. Although you didn't consider this relationship to last, you lost control when your partner decided to move away I'd guess. Love is I do this for you so you shine, paraphrasing Yung Pueblo. Hope you heal the part of you that is causing hurt. Someone more suited for you may come along and you may find it within you to renew your healing. I know I went a little philosophical lol, felt like it this morning.

It hurts because it’s not on your terms.
The next time quit when you’re on top. Don’t wait for the “right moment”, do it at the “rationale moment” the moment when you realize it’s a waste of time.

Sounds like you care more about your pride than his well being. Wish him well in his new endeavor and find someone you really like. And maybe go to therapy…

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