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Sounds like you’re making self worth a little too contingent on other people’s approval of you.
Every time you have these thoughts - tell yourself that he’s an idiot who didn’t know what he had and is missing out on
You pity him
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Easier said than done, but when you change your mindset about the situation, you can look at it differently. I was there before. My ex cheated on me with a freaking model and left me for her. I thought I looked like a potato compared to her, and my self esteem crumbled. Kept thinking something was wrong with me, that girl has so many things I don’t have, etc. but then I got tired of feeling like I wasn’t enough just because of one guy. I felt I deserve to be with someone who sees value in me. Girl you are worthy of love. Go out and do things you love to do. Enjoy being single. You don’t need a guy in your life who makes you feel like that. Overtime I hope you gain more confidence, and one day find a man who values, loves and respects you as much as you love yourself. A guy who doesn’t ain’t worth your time.
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An actual model? Or a wannabe model
Stay strong. Keep your chin up. You are responsible for your happiness, not anybody rose.
Cause and Effect. Log causes that will make you and others happy long term and before you know it, you will see results.
This is usually how my relationships end. They want to get married. I don’t see myself growing old with the person. Time eventually runs out on every dead end relationship. There is usually some major flaw that never improves over time. I stay way too long. One was an alcoholic, the next couldn’t hold a job or take accountability for anything. Maybe you got some feedback during the process. Learn, improve, try again. Don’t sit in the shadows waiting for another chance. I’d never reconsider after ending a long term relationship. I already wasted enough time there.
Alcohol has been my go to. Can't say it's helped though
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Took me a long time to learn, just because someone isn’t right fit with you, doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. Just means the fit wasn’t right. I got married to someone who was the wrong fit and it was miserable. I had all kinds of self esteems issues following the divorce. Second marriage is with the man who is the complete right fit for me, and the difference between the relationships was like night and day. I finally realized I was the same person in both those relationships, so the problem with my ex- wasn’t me. (and I think he’s happily remarried as well) You’ll find your fit!
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Been there. The important aspect is finding out what exactly you liked about him and the relationship you were in. Start looking for those qualities and it’s true that there’s plenty of fish out there!
Also, I signed up into headspace and Gaia to give me the confidence boost and to overall start believing in myself which is how you can stop feeling unworthy! Remember you’ve come a long way and wishing someone good whether they are with you or not is a very powerful and positive vibration you’re putting out there! ❤️
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Went through this as well, make sure u surround yourself with friends. Write down what u want in your ideal partner, focus on yourself, bettering yourself to be the best version you could possibly be