Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

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Just say you’re pregnant and have been advised by the doctor to minimize outside contact. Trust me, no one will think twice.

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