Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

Finally had a breakdown over infertility this AM and trying to pull myself together for Zoom. My tests are fine, but husband can’t deliver during my fertile window. I feel so hopeless with every month that goes by, and he doesn’t have any sense of urgency when HE is the one who wants kids more than I do. Just needed to vent.

What’s your favorite WFH footwear? Any recommended brands for a chilly home office?

I find it hard to keep it together at school. I was in an abusive relationship that finally lead me to emptiness and emotional trying times. I keep things bottled up about school and home.

How often do you respond to emails from law students who want to learn about your firm/practice area? I get like a dozen requests right around OCI every year. Frankly I’m tired of speaking to them and answering the same boring questions, especially if I know they have a low GPA and no chance of summering at my firm, but I do feel bad saying no/ignoring them

My boss in my creative agency threatened to fire me because I, a male, came into work with my nails painted. HR is having a very complicated day today as I found out I could take legal action if he does fire me since we don't have an established dress code that has any guidelines against male nail polish wearing.

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

I’m 6 month pregnant with a good amount of lower back pain that gets worse with standing and walking. Insanely, I’d like to take my 2 older kids to Disney before the new baby arrives. Has anyone been to Disney Land (CA) and Disney World (FL)? I’m curious if Disney Land being smaller would be less walking and possibly a better option.

ALL BUT YOUR CHILD HAS THE FLU IN YOUR HOME? KEEP THEM HOME TOO!

Working on a divorce where the father is claiming that he is unemployed because of the previous administration’s actions with DACA (he was brought to the States as a child). I know that the memo rescinding DACA was ultimately vacated—but OC is unsure whether this would count as voluntary unemployment for child support purposes. I believe it does as the application period to renew DACA benefits was reopened in 2020. Thoughts?

Could anyone suggest a good ladies pg in Marathalli area? Preferably single sharing or double.

Men in your 30s and 40s - what is the number one quality you're looking for in a woman? I like to think I'm compassionate, intelligent and independent (as much as any other woman), but I'm still struggling to find dates. I would say I'm attractive, and I take care of myself pretty well. What am I doing wrong?

best excuse to use when you have to escape the office for 2 hours to go on an interview?

Do managers tend to make a scene while you put your papers?

GDS folks, a colleague of mine has defaulted on timesheets (more than 3) at senior level and was rated as Progressive. Is that the sole factor for not him not being a rated as differentiator?

Anyone experience working full time while attending law school? Not sure how I could support myself and family if I don't work. Any insight would be helpful!

Bengali Male here, single. Living in Pune.
Is anyone interested to be friends?

Might end up dating, if we get along well!

So let’s say if someone’s father / very close relative was very high up in the government of India in Delhi. How does that person go about leveraging his / her relationships, legally, to do something in India? Would you rather do that or stay in the US in consulting?

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

My manager nominated me for judging a small programme happing virtually with two other head of the Department, but when I joined the programme someone from office outside was included for that with director and those two HODs were also not there... I prepared my speech, well dressed up but when hosts announce the name of judges I felt bad... he could have atleast informed me... everytime he does the same kind of thing and than says in corporate sector types of politics happens...

Looking for software engineers with experience for startup due to go public at 4 billion.

Looking for midlevel at 175k Base and 265K in RSUs

Senior Software Engineers 210K Base 480K in RSUs

Staff Software Engineers 250K Base 992K in RSUs

The roles will be based in the bay area

Looking for individuals with Front End and Back end experience.
Data Pipeline, Data Connections, Distributed System, experience designing systems.

Please reach out if interested. Will not sponsor H1b

Has anyone’s company moved their return to office date FORWARD? Curious to hear of anyone’s experience

Can anyone please suggest which would be best to join:

Cognizant 6.5lpa (6.3 fixed) (0.2 variable)
Or
Sapient 8.5lpa

Sapient mentioned that if I give confirmation of joining they will increase to 9.5lpa before joining in offer.

Current CTC 3.55 LPA

I have 2.2 years experience with 1 year of Automation testing with selenium java and Cucumber.

Can you lose your job if you don’t like the animosity from your creative team and speak up about it ? Genuinely worried I might be disrupting the peace by saying something 🥴 the anxiety is terrible! Do I just accept it that they don’t like me or speak up and potentially burn that bridge?

Going through the apartment hunt. What're your best sources/websites for (maybe for Cambridge/Watertown or quincy areas)?
Have only ever used craigslist in the past.

What do EY FAAS hours look like these days? And then what were they like traditionally?

Hi Guys
I have 6.5+ YoE in production support working for Barclays Bank IB portfolio. Can I get any referrals for BNY. Skill set Autosys, Unix scripting, SQL, Jira, Agile methodology, ITRS, Nolio, User & Application support, adept at incident, change and problem management areas.

Anyone know salaries for Zurich as a Senior AD ?

Moving to NYC with my girlfriend. We are 26. Budget is 4K-4500 for a 1br in a luxury building. What neighborhoods should we be targeting? More so foodies than bar people. Quieter probably preferred.

Hi,

Anyone suggest the appraisal cycle and persent of increments will happen? I joined in month of Feb 22. Am I eligible for appraisal. If the cycle in dec.

What are hours like in Big 4 Forensics?

I’m planning to start cold emailing a few companies that I’d love to work at. Is it more beneficial to reach out to hiring managers or someone in the department you’d like to be at?

Can provide more details if needed, but if an employee is constantly coughing at work (small retail establishment), is it okay to ask them for a doctor's note stating they aren't contagious? They're claiming it's due to allergies, but I've gotten several confidential concerns from employees and customers alike due to the current enviornment.

What are your best tips when letting an expecting parent know we will not be revising the parental leave policy for them (but we understand they think it’s not good enough)

Sheesh I was really excited that this bowl existed….the. Saw that it’s not active at all 😂 Guess everyone’s on the what to expect app!

Any recommendations for a umbrella stroller? Our Uppababy Vista is way too big to lug around everywhere.

Our 5 month old started daycare about 5 weeks ago. We’ve already had to keep her home for 2.5 of those 5 weeks due to catching various illnesses (croup, rsv, brinchiolitis, etc). Both my wife and I have been sick most of that time as well (gotten it from the baby). Wife is thinking we get a full time nanny for the next 4 months to help the baby build antibodies. Cost aside, is this feasible / worthwhile to go thru the effort / finding the right fit, only for 4 months?

Took my 2 year old daughter to the dentist and she found 4 cavities. We’ve been teaching her to brush her teeth before bed & after meals(unsuccessfully) so far.
She’s needs sdf treatment according to the dentist, any suggestions on how to move after the treatment as it leaves black coverage on the teeth. (She’s too young for crowns and what not)

Dads with older children: while raising your children, did your children prefer their moms over you? I know some will prefer dads over moms, but I assume majority of children out there will prefer their moms over dads… I have one child and it kinda hurts to see my child always preferring the mom over me. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I just do. How did you cope with such issue raising your children?

Anyone has an alternative to an Au Pair. Wife and I were looking forward to host an au pair but can’t go through the official program since we are not permanent residents yet. Anyone has an alternative besides traditional daycare? Maybe a friend of a friend? I am in NJ. Any ideas welcomed and needed!

I am getting ready to send my 2 year old toddler to a toddler program next week for the first time. Have to fill out a form “bathroom waiver”, which is basically allowing teachers at the school to clean my child after a potty, including genital area. I feel uneasy about this but I know I have to let them… I assume all parents have signed such waiver?

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

Welcome all to parents in Consulting bowl, please post a little bit about yourself, number of kids and their ages!

Hi everyone, first timer here. Having some issues w. our 4 yo being pushed around and bullied at preschool. He’s really sad and upset. He’s also super shy & introvert. Any advise? Pep talk? Discuss with teacher?

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing

Any parents under H1B? I was@looking to get an au pair for kids and got to know that I cannot host one because I don’t have a green card yet. Any options? I heard people get au pairs that have another year remaining in their visa but couldn’t find one yet

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

What Christmas gift can I get a 3 year old boy? He loves cars and all things transportation related. And has a ton of toys. I want to get him something very thoughtful that he can engage, learn or just have fun.

Starting a new job next week and when do I tell my coworkers that I have a newborn? Male asking.

Any parents who are still on the safe side with Covid? We have a 1 year old and being safe and staying mostly home is really getting to me. Most of our friends have kids who are able to mask up or are vaccinated and it’s getting quite isolating. Especially now mask mandates are being lifted feeling like we can’t go anywhere without risking our kid.

EY 🐠 - potentially starting with the firm soon, and my partner is due to have our first in April. Given the 1 year service requirement for leave, would I have the option to take PTO during birth and use parental leave after my 1 year of service? Appreciate any guidance here

Consulting Baby Shower question - what was the best baby shower gift you ever received?

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…