Just went through a cancer scare.
Looks like it was a false alarm, but it threw me for a loop. Can’t sleep, can’t work out, back to back habits, while theoretically I should be exuberant...

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I think it’s common to be faced with your own mortality after an experience like that. My dad had the same feelings after having heart surgery a few years ago.

His advice to me was to figure out what matters and focus on that. I’d imagine you’re posting this in part wondering if the stress of consulting is worth while. I’d encourage you to sit down and figure out what your priorities are then go pursue them. We only have a finite amount of time on this rock so might as well make sure we’re using it well.

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First off, thank God it was just a scare. Happy for that.

What you’re feeling is a common response to this situation. You may want to check out ‘The Middle Passage’ by James Hollis. Dense material but lots of good stuff on finding meaning.

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Take this scare to make some needed life changes!

Thanks, guys. Your advice makes sense.


It just that instead of stepping back and re-evaluating, making changes, etc., I feel paralyzed, deflated and unable to move on. And just so very tired.

Are you on meds?

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