Looking for advice. I was promised a promotion in October but have yet to receive it.Its been 4months and no change. My manager continues to assign me projects that don't align with my job description. I stopped working on the project as a result. Do you think I was showing attitude? Do you think what I did was right? if I’m wrong please let me know so that I can correct myself. I also feel I don't have the option to say no when I'm assigned a project. Like I'm forced to say yes.

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Ugh, I'm sorry your company is dragging their feet on giving you what sounds like your well-deserved promotion. I definitely think you need to ask them about it sooner than later, though, otherwise you may just keep getting more resentful. I do think you were showing a little attitude by halting work on the project outside of your job description (which is justified) but nipping it in the bud- on whether you are getting the promotion or not- will make you feel so much better. I do think it's a common trait for women to say yes to everything because we've all worked so hard to get to where we're at, but then we end up being overworked and underpaid. I just read something along the lines of, "If you are angry, don't act on your anger but don't suppress it either. Those feelings will only pass if you address them in a calm, constructive manner." So sorry you're going through this!

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Yikes! Sorry, this is happening to you. I would definitely bring it up with your manager. Instead of just halting any additional work, you can have the direct conversation that you feel uncomfortable taking on responsibilities that are outside your current job description. It's hard to kick off the conversation, but it's so necessary to communicate your frustrations calmly to get this weight off your shoulders. Good luck!

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I agree with almost everything in this answer. But the word "uncomfortable" has bothered me for hours. I think, as women, we tend to be too indirect and to me this is a perfect example. "I'm uncomfortable" is totally something I would say, but I don't think it's the right thing to say. I think the right thing to say is more like "<task> is the responsibility of a senior engineer, and my ability to do it shows that I am a senior engineer".

And, yes, like the others, I don't think you should go on strike against the one project.

I don't think I would stop working on a project without a conversation first.

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Oh no...this is really odd. What exactly have they said when you try to bring up the promotion? I think if you've had tons of convos and it's not going anywhere, I can see why you stopped working on the project...but I'd be careful on that one and make sure you've documented the convos you had

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If they've promised a promotion and haven't delivered, they aren't acting in good faith. You should pursue the promised promotion and also look for outside opportunities.

What I would do about the promotion is call a meeting with whoever promised it, and ask about it again. "You said in October that I would be promoted, but this hasn't happened. What is the timeline? Is there something holding up the process?"

Follow up this meeting with an email. "To confirm today's discussion: I will get a promotion to X title, with a raise to $Y, at the end of February when ____ happens. Is this correct?"

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